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Temper Tantrum in Children - A Simple Guide to Parents
By Andrew Loh
No one in the world is immune from developing temper and anger. In fact,
children are just like any other adults. Children are more prone to show
anger and temper from time to time. A temper tantrum is a sudden,
on-the-spot and unplanned show of anger. It may be an act to get
parent's attention. Alternatively, it could also be spontaneous and
self-generated as a response to some internal or external stimuli. When
your child displays an incidence of temper tantrum, he or she may cry,
yell, or swing their legs and hands wildly. Temper tantrum could last
anywhere from a few seconds to more than 5 minutes. It could be very
wild or it could be serious. Temper tantrum is always more intense at
the start and it may dissipate very slowly with the passage of time.
At times, temper tantrum may last for a long time. Such display of
temper could very dangerous for a child. Severe temper tantrum is always
detrimental to the health of a child. During a serious temper tantrum
display, children may hit, bite and even pinch their parent. Violent
episode of temper tantrum is a dangerous sign, because children may
injure themselves and others. They may not even know what they are doing
is wrong.
Temper tantrum may range from simple crying (for a long time) to
screaming, kicking, beating, holding breath and rolling on the floor.
Temper tantrum is very common among age bracket of 1 years olds to 3
years olds. Temper tantrum is a show of extreme
emotions. It is a psychological phenomenon. If temper tantrum is
uncontrollable and lasts very long time, then parents may need to seek
the help of a qualified physician.
Children's temper differs dramatically - some of them may never show any
signs of temper tantrum, while others may experience regular episodes of
temper. Getting anger and showing temper are a normal part of the
growing process. You may not like to see or view it as a negative
process. However, uncontrolled and longer episodes of temper need some
treatment. Adults can control and streamline their temper, while
children may not possess such a controlling mechanism.
A tantrum is a natural response, when someone or something blocks a
child from learning a particular independent or learning skill. At this
time, the child may not possess the required skills or knowledge to
express his or her disappointment, anger and frustration in any other
manner. For example, when your child cannot get what he or she wants,
temper tantrum may crop up immediately. Another example may occur when
you order your children stop watching TV.
Some children may show excessive displays of temper tantrum than other
children. Issues that may make a tantrum more likely to happen are as
follow:
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If your child is extremely tired or sick, then she or he
may show temper tantrum for some time. In essence, the degree of
tiredness a child experiences is an indicator of future display of
disappointment.
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The age of the child may have an influence on the level
of temper tantrum. Children who are in the age bracket of one and four
years are more likely to display temper tantrum.
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The level of stress that your child undergoes also has
some influence on the degree of temper tantrum. If your child is
undergoing lot of stress, then you can expect them to display temper at
regular intervals.
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Likely physical, mental or emotional problems those are
health related, could result in exhibition of temper tantrum.
Even parents' behavior may have some influence on the temper tantrum in
children. If they react too harshly or too strongly to poor behavior in
children or if they cave into children's excessive demands, then you can
expect some display of temper in children.
Most children will slowly grow and emerge out of possessing temper
tantrums. As your children grow older, they will learn practical ways to
handle and manage very strong emotions that eventually lead to temper
tantrums. However, children who still show temper tantrum, even after
the age of four may need help from you to deal with tantrum,
disappointment and frustrations. If children show temper during school
years, it indicates that there are some invisible problems such as
learning problems or trouble with their peers. If temper tantrums recur
continuously over a period, then parents may need to consult a qualified
physician to find out the reasons for temper tantrum. Continue to read
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