Effective Discipline Strategies for Parents - Two Basic Principles
By Andrew Loh
Discipline - “Behavior in accord with rules of conduct;
behavior and order maintained by training and control: as in an army.”
Verb - “to bring to a state of order and obedience by training
Experts define the term discipline in a number of ways and by using different
sources. However, discipline has a special meaning in the context of
teaching effective discipline strategies for parents. Simply speaking,
for a parent, the basic meaning of child discipline is to train
Learn how to control self to remain calm, relaxed and composed
Learn to identify and recognize acceptable limits for any action
Learning where and how to stop, so that no untoward incidents occur
If a child is failing to learn these aspects, it is possible that he or
she is trying to neglect them. The unfortunate thing is that when your children
continue to ignore those aspects, it will become difficult for them to
recognize possible ill-effects in future. It will be far more difficult for your
children to learn the process as it always becomes irreversible.
Did you ever worry and got frustrated with erring or misbehaving
children? Were you ever disappointed to see that your children refused to
perform their assigned duties and responsibilities? Do you ask them
repeatedly to complete their project work and school assignments?
Indiscipline and refusal to follow requests, orders or even instructions
are common among many children. Training children to learn proper
discipline, responsibility and accountability is very critical for their
success. However, the very act of doing that could be a big and tough
task for many parents. It could be very frustrating too.
The biggest bottleneck that hinders your children from learning
responsibility, mannerism and accountability is the perceived lack of motivation.
More often, children tend to get wayward, when you try to teach them the
basics of discipline. Children also respond to discipline strategies,
when you motivate them with the right type of techniques and methods.
This article series provides you the right type of discipline techniques
that you can use to teach your children how to be a responsible citizen.
However, two of the prerequisites that you need to follow, while teaching
discipline methods to your children are:
Making the exercise, as
easy and flexible as possible
Ensuring proper rewards for every
instance of job well carried out, to provide the necessary catalyst to
carry the momentum forward
In addition, the most basic understanding or meaning that your child
needs to comprehend are:
Simple strategies that work to teach proper discipline are:
Understanding natural or real consequences of breaking the
This is the time when your children comprehend and
understand the consequences, if they do not adhere to the principles of
The natural consequence of your child dropping toffee around the
house is that he or she will have no more toffee to eat.
The natural consequence of your child spoiling a board game is that
he or she will not be able to play with it again.
Outcome: The logical outcome of these experiences is
that your child will not have the liberty to use the items again either
for eating or for playing. This will eventually make them understand
that he or she will have to use things very carefully.
Caution: If you are using this method, never ever, give replacements
for the things that your children destroy (throwing
around toffee or spoiling the toys). Your children should understand
the consequences of crossing the acceptable norms.
Understanding logical or apparent consequences of breaking the
At times, you may need to intervene and introduce a
consequence. This method is pro-active and result oriented through very
harsh at times.
Outcome: If your children continue to repeat that act,
you will just need to put all those toys for the rest of the day or
weekend. In fact, you will be denying your children's rights as a form
Caution: Never ever, yell at your children or show your
excessive anger. It is just pointless. Just be firm and act in a normal
In fact, the above-mentioned methods are the most basic methods on which
all other discipline techniques work. If you know how to differentiate
between these two methods, you will be on the right path to learn many
other techniques. Continue to read
Effective Discipline Strategies for Parents - Useful Techniques and Methods