Effective Discipline Strategies for Parents - Useful Techniques and Methods
By Andrew Loh
Child psychologists around the world recommend many methods and
strategies that teach discipline to your children. Most of these methods
or techniques rely on some forms of punishments or reprisals that make
children understand the basics of not obeying the normal rules.
Some of the simple and easy discipline strategies for parents are as follows:
Denying or withholding privileges
The reasoning is very simple. If your children fail to follow your instructions, you will
need to tell them that they will have to give something up that they
like very much. In other words, they may need to lose the liberty or
freedom to use the privilege. This method will teach your children about the
natural consequence of breaking the rules. When you snatch away the
right or privilege, your children will begin to understand the real
meaning of discipline.
Never ever, apply this rule to the most basic needs of life such as
food or clothing
Choose a thing that your child cherishes the most,
like a toy or a chocolate bar. Make sure that you are denying something
that relates to the incident of misbehavior.
The action should be
swift and instantaneous. Do it right away, if your children are under
the age of 7 years. For example, if your small child misbehaves,
withdraw a particular privilege like watching a Dora TV show, almost
Never ever, back down on your action. It could be
counter-productive. You should be firm and resolute in your action.
Make sure that you are not handing corporal punishment like beating.
Punishment is a bad form of parenting.
There are occasions when children
break rules intentionally. Children may break set rules from time to
time as well. This specific technique works very well for those children
who are under the age of 5 years. However, you can use this method
throughout your children's adolescence.
Before applying this technique, you will
need to inform your children about those unacceptable behaviors that
will eventually invite the time-out punishment. Be firm and clear, how
you will enforce the rule and play the game. You will need to repeat
this exercise many times to get the desired result. Make sure that you
never beat your children. Verbal reprimands work best with a tough
The main goal of this exercise is to the separate the child from normal
privileges, to help her
or him to ponder over why you did that in the first place. Let the place
chosen be very safe and secure for your children. Never ever, choose
bathrooms or bedrooms for this exercise. All instances of bad behavior
will get one simple warning. Repeated behavior will instantly attract
the time-out punishment. You will need to order your child to go
straightway to the chair and sit down on it.
If your child displays an instance of bad behavior, tell
him or her why that behavior was bad and unacceptable. Do not show your
emotions, while you are using this exercise. If your child refuses to sit
on the chair, you may need to carry him or her to the chair to enforce
the rule. You may also need to utter one simple, yet tough sentence - “you are
sitting here, because you did not follow the rule”.
Never ever, respond to any plea, request or emotional outburst from
your child. Set the timer to enforce the rule. The normal time-out time
is one minute for every year of your child's age. If older children
start making fuss, you may need to restart the timer and enforce another
time-out session. Make sure that your child will serve the time-out
sentence without fail. Soon after the completion of the time-out
exercise, you can ask your child to resume the normal activity. Never
ever, say sorry or seek pardon. Be firm and resolute in your action.
Your children should understand that you are serious. A couple of
sessions should work to your advantage.
Caution: Spanking is always dangerous and
counter-productive. It may never be advantageous to you and your
children. Know what your children can do and what they cannot.
Understand their limitations. Once you enforce a rule, you should stick
to it. However, be realistic and have a reasonable expectation from your
children's true abilities. Remember that you are enforcing a rule to
put your children on the right track. Never ever, be inhuman and do
something that causes injuries to your children. After all, your
children are precious to you and you want them to be the best citizens
of the world.
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