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Volume #6 Issue #10
ISSN: 0219-7642 Jan 20, 2008
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I want to share with you an inspirational short story by Amber Thomure:
In life we all learn to walk
and talk, we struggle to survive. To learn to live though is
another atter. We tend to acquire that knowledge the hard way. I
realized this when my father died. I wanted to do so much more
with him and now that I see how short life is, I understand the
importance of putting first things first. I have chosen to live
life as a participant, not a spectator; my first experience with
death actually taught me how to live.
I can recall the day clearly;
it was August 27th, 1991. It was a beautiful bright sunny day just
outside of Sacramento, California, my father
and I spent his last day alive at the State Fair. We were there
all day long, from open to close. We did everything we could: saw
all the exhibits, rode all the rides, played all the games and of
course ate our fair share of cotton candy and snacks. Towards the
end of the day he was getting tired and slowing down. At the time
I really didn't think much of it, we were both wearing thin. Now
of course I realize what was happening, he was starting to have a
Once we got home I was out
like a light, but before I fell asleep I remember thinking that
this was the best day of my life. I was definitely "Daddy's Girl"
and that day I had him all to myself, something that was very
rare. That was the last night for many years I could fall asleep
feeling like everything in my life was okay and all was well in
the world. I was young, just thirteen years old, I was naive and
my father was my personal hero. I had no idea something like that
would or even could ever happen to me, or to him. As a child I
lost my father and he lost his life. I was of course devastated
when my mother woke me up in the wee hours of the morning to tell
me the news.
The next few years were
difficult; my entire world had been shredded, torn apart and
turned upside down. My mom and I ended up moving, her to Arizona
and me to here, there and everywhere. I stayed with friends and
acquaintances, I felt isolated for quite some time. There were no
more fair days, no more piggy back rides, no more "Daddy's Little
Girl". I turned to my family and faith for guidance and support.
Although it was a fight I ultimately learned that living is more
important than surviving.
As adults it's easy to miss
out on life, at least the part that matters. Jobs, problems, or
whatever the pressing issues of the day are, can easily overshadow
what matters most to us. Things like family, friends and our own
happiness are often neglected or pushed to the back burner. We say
we want to spend time with the people we love, so then why don't
we? Why is it that we spend our time on other things? Imagine that
you are sick, really sick, would the world keep going? Then what
if you took a vacation day every once in awhile, would everything
really fall apart? Of course the world would keep turning; the
reality is, the world will keep going once we are gone. We all
have to find time to turn off our cell phones and really be there
for each other, to live.
It took me many years and a
lot of soul searching to come to this point, but my personal
mission statement is "I will not just survive, I will live". That
same statement will mean a variety of things to other people, but
here's what it means to me. Buy the perfect dress, eat ice cream
for breakfast, go on the trip of a lifetime. Just stay true to
yourself and focused on what matters most , it does not mean is to
be irresponsible or live each day as if were your last. We all
have bills to pay and responsibilities to meet. However, there are
ways of enjoying life and still meeting your obligations. Be the
first one to jump in the pool, sing karaoke in front of your
friends, just live your life so you don't look back and say I wish
I would have done more, or I missed out. Just getting the most out
of life, to me that is truly living.
The way I see it is, the
smallest tasks can be the greatest gifts. We can decide that
everyday is valuable and treat it so. Routine jobs can be thought
of events, things like grocery shopping or driving to work can be
looked at in a positive way. We can sing in the shower, we can
have a blast making dinner, its all in our perspective and how we
choose to live.
I am married now and my
husband and I have a son together, we both want him to be able to
look back at his childhood and know that he was important. We work
at spending time together, and by spending I don't mean in the
sense that "Time is Money" because its not. It's much more
valuable than that. We make a point do things as a family, whether
it's a vacation to Hawaii, a trip to the
circus or just watching TV we do it together. I believe that we
show him our love, by enjoying the simple things with him, through
our actions not only our words.
We were all born and will all
die, the question is what will happen in between. Will you simply
walk or will you skip and dance? Will you only talk or can you
listen and sing? Will you survive or will you live? My father may
not have had a long life, but he lived!
Thought for today:
"If you observe a really happy man you will find him building a boat, writing a symphony,
educating his son, growing double dahlias in his garden. He will not be searching for happiness
as if it were a collar button that has rolled under the radiator.
" - W. Beran Wolfe
Publisher & Editor, BrainyZine
andrew @ brainy-child.com
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Raising Self Reliant Children: Tips and Suggestions
When a kid leads a self-reliant life, he or she is able to think and act for self and for own good.
With positive quality of self reliance, he or she can also trust his or her own sense of judgment and
later introspect on various aspects of life. Find tips and
suggestion on how to build self-reliant on your children here.
Golden Tips to Make Your Child Self-Reliant
Every parent aspires to make his of her kid self-reliant and self sufficient in the life. A kid who is self-reliant
is always self-sufficient and independent, is capable enough to think and act on his or her own initiative, is ready
to take simple risks and becomes successful in solving intricate problems,
rather than needlessly fret over them. Read more here.
Raising Everyday Heroes: Parenting Children to be Self-Reliant
By Elisa Medhus, M.D
Written for parents, teachers, counselors and everyone else
involved with raising children, this book emphasizes the
need for kids to learn to make smart decisions in the face
of today's permissive culture and strong peer pressure.
Many parents go to great lengths to protect their children
from dangerous influences, boredom, want, and even the
consequences of the kid's own choices, but Elisa Medhus-
winning author of the 2002 Parent's Choice Award and
National Parenting Publication Award-believes this doesn't
allow kids to develop the skills they need to be successful
She tells readers how to give their children opportunities
to overcome adversity while still in a loving family
environment, so they can develop internal wisdom, creative
problem solving skills, and basic common sense.
It's Not That Complicated: The Twenty Rules for Raising Happy, Self-Reliant Children
By Doug Peine
While standing in the checkout line at one of the nation's largest discount stores, author Doug Peine observed the antics of a
toddler defying his exasperated mother by refusing to put back a candy bar and throwing an all-out temper tantrum. It is a scene
played out in stores and homes all across America everyday: children manipulating their parents who haplessly try
to fix the behavioral problems with misguided attempts at discipline culled from an endless parade of "experts".
In this simple
but eloquent book, Peine shows readers that, in spite of vast wealth of knowledge on child-rearing and child psychology, parents
are more confused than ever because much of the material is too complicated and often contradictory.
For little ones, it's anything but brain food
smh.com.au Jan 07, 2008
Small children who eat more than one serving a fortnight of certain
types of fish are at risk of developing severe learning and
behavioural difficulties that could lead to autism, doctors warned
A study has found that children under the age of six who regularly
eat large, predatory fish, such as shark (which is sold as flake),
catfish, snapper or barramundi often have mercury levels up to seven
times the safe maximum, which can lead to aggressive and regressive
Soot from traffic exhaust lowers IQ
ITWire Jan 11, 2008
They found that the intelligence quotient (IQ) of children living in
areas with more traffic fumes level had IQs, or intelligence levels,
which were three points below that of children living in areas with
less exhaust fumes. The children were given two intelligence tests:
The Wide Range Assessment of Memory and Learning and the Kaufman
Brief Intelligence Test.
Gaming makes young kids dumber
iTWire - Australia Jan 14, 2008
According to this report from www.news.com.au a special think tank
summit was held to discuss the effect on young brains by exposure to
electronic games and gadgets. The "Technology industry experts" who
gathered to discuss the issue arrived at the conclusion that kids
should not be exposed to such devices and games until they are at
They're No Baby Einstein's
News Week Jan 14, 2008
Now that your children are back in school, there is something you should know.
I'm afraid your kid isn't a genius! Chances are he or she isn't even gifted. Don't feel
bad. By the most generous definition, only about 5% of kids can be considered gifted
according to educators. Even fewer rate as actual geniuses; those sticklers at MENSA
accept only those people whose IQ puts them in the top 2 percentage of population.
So, let us face the truth: 95% of our kids are not gifted.
Clever and cleverer
Guardian Unlimited Jan 6, 2008
Are people smarter than they used to be? In the sense that we are
more capable of handling the logic of hypotheticals, yes.
Parenting Pick Eaters
Your Kids Jan 09, 2008
Tempting the taste buds of your children can be challenging, but not impossible. If you have
a child who is a picky eater, crying can be the main dish while screaming is the desert.
Some parents don't know they are the culprits responsible for feeding their frustration. Here
are some helpful hints when it comes to dinner time which might make it easier to swallow.
It is OK to be choosy! Researchers who study picky eaters say that pickiness is found in every
culture and in at least 25 to 30 percent of families.
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