Possibly A Gifted Toddler
By Inderbir Kaur Sandhu, Ph.D
Thank you for your fruitful website that always imparted in us being the
great parents we wish to be.
I would like to ask that I have a three year old baby girl. From birth
she has always shown the level of intelligence that even the doctors
where commenting on it too. How do I help the level of maturity she
walks in? At 6 month her memories I have wrote down she was already
refusing the child minder to bath her I assumed they were not getting
along and I took over the responsibility, I noticed even with me she was
refusing to be bathed with moreover even to clean her private part she
refused. I thought that maybe she was abused and took her to
paediatrician and everything was fine. As year passed by she begun her
swimming she didn't want fathers in the water as the mums and dads comes
along in the water on training of swimming that also was a worry at her
age at one she is not supposed to have knowledge of strangers or some
Up until when she gets two she has the signs of maturity in the house
that leaves everyone stunned. She mends she has the leadership that
every visitor she has to introduce who she is and allow them to know
there names etc. She started playing ballet at two on herself in her
room and I had no idea where she got that from as no one does of the
sort in the family. I booked her and she got the chance after she turned
3 and on the first day the instructor thought she was doing somewhere
because she was doing as if she started long back.
To cut the story short she has so many gifts and talents that I cannot allow her to do
all she does in her private moments. With children of her age she treats
them as infants that brings me fear that they might take advantage of
her as she always do for their best not hers. She started preschool this
is January and she already won the miss valentine contest. She plays the
role of a doctor in the house and believe me when someone got hurt she
knows all the necessary step the doctor does and she makes a follow up
with you throughout the day checking how you are doing and encourages
the patient to take some rest and gives mature advises. I have no idea
what I should do as the school she is she does not like it though I
encourage her that it's a good school all she could do when she comes
back she starts narrating naming them accordingly this one is good and
point that one is cruel.
I tried talking to the school in a soft way but the father does not like
her to be exposed as that might cause concerns against her.
Is there a place where children are taken to see how great they are and
polish them according to there gifts? Please help. Thanks.
Thank you for your kind words. I am assuming that your little one is
three years old now and based on your description on her developmental
milestones, she is definitely very advanced in comparison to her peers.
It is great that you have noticed her gifts at an early age and nurtured
them as much as you can.
A gifted toddler is very highly curious and thus wants to learn
everything, as in the case of your child. At this stage, all she is
doing is exploring and because she is cognitively advanced, she is able
to learn things quickly and with deep interest. However, this may not
last very long as they may get bored of similar activities especially
for prolonged periods. Therefore, expose her to a variety of activities
and allow her to indulge in it as long as it is safe. Allow her to
explore as much as possible even if you may think she is too young.
E.g., introduce her to the world of books, do museum visits, nature
walks and chat a lot. If she is interested in music - which she probably
would be, allow her to play a musical instrument. Get a toy instrument
first or be creative and use pots and pan perhaps to create music. Or
get her to compose her own song and recorded it. At the same time,
introduce her to puzzles and measurements as an initial mathematical
learning. She will learn very quickly. Most importantly, do not hold her
back. Allow her to keep learning by making sure her activities are
stimulating, accelerated and meaningful. Without challenge, she may get
As much as there are valid concerns from your husband's side, she should
not be held back at all. At play school, her teachers need to know that
she may be a little different cognitively and requires more stimulating
and challenging work. If the school is indifferent towards her needs,
you may want to look around for a school with more flexibility - more
unstructured and play-based activities. Talk so different school
principals to get an idea of how they may be able to further develop her
potential. Should they suggest you get her tested to get her the
education she deserves, you may want to look into that. However, it is
best to hold on with that unless it is the only way to show evidence of
high ability to schools.
It would be a great idea to join a parents support group for gifted
children to be able to get the much-needed support from similar groups.
At this point, take it one day at a time. Allow her to be a child and do
what she enjoys without compromising on her learning. Until she goes to
formal school, a good preschool would be able to meet her needs at the
same time allowing her to enjoy being a 3 year old. Initial social
skills are crucial for a cognitively advanced child so make sure she has
enough play time in groups - the preschool would be able to play this
Your little one is very special and your journey will be a very one too.
Here's wishing you all the best in parenting your princess.