Disruptive Behaviour at School
By Inderbir Kaur Sandhu, Ph.D
Regarding the levels of giftedness I think that my 4 year old son is
a type 2 and it worries me. He is bored at school we tried a Montessori
school but he was soon labelled as the naughty one and spent most of his
time in the thinking chair, when asked he said he was bored didn't like
the school and find no meaning in the repetitive jobs. Now in a main
stream school he is still bored and doesn't like it. His level of
English is excellent ( he's got an Argentinean mum ) and is above the
other children of same age and some older.
He is very creative. He loves the animals and knows absolutely all about
them but is still being labelled as disruptive. When he gets into this
moments of disruptive behaviour, he just doesn't follow the instructions
and can be noise and try to be funny making faces or mocking some other
children or the teacher. But at the same time, he is caring over sensitive,
gets scare very easily and thinks a lot and expresses his sadness of this
rejection from parents, teacher, children and it really breaks my heart.
Don't know what to do and I can see he doesn't like the school at all as
he is not having a good time and is always in the bad spot.
Could you please guide me? I'm desperate. Many thanks and kind regards.
The type of giftedness is simply a gauge on which type of a gifted child
you may have and the kind of support needed. It is usually easier to
categorise them when they are older. Gifted children are very diverse
and every one is unique in her or his own way. I can understand your
concerns about his behaviour. Not wanting to go to school at 4 years of
age does indicate that something is happening at school that he is not
happy about and bothering him so much that the only way he copes is by
Firstly you need to find out what the problem is at. Why is he being
disruptive? What happens before he misbehaves? Is he misbehaving for
attention? Or is he being bullied or bullying someone? Is he angry? Or
is he just bored? For every one of these, you would need examples of
what happens prior to his behaviour. If you see him as very caring and
sensitive, then something may be troubling him at school and his
misbehaviour is a mere manifestation of his feelings. He is too young to
know how to express himself therefore misbehaving probably gets him the
attention he needs.
Find out what he means when he says he is bored in school. Ask him what
is boring. He is actually too young to understand boredom. Unless of
course he is being taught stuff that he has already mastered. You really
need to do a lot of probing in determining what is happening in school.
Speak to his teachers and principal to get some answers. He is too young
to express his needs so you need to help him by finding out the reason
for his misbehaviour. I wish you all the best in your journey.