Early Advanced Potential
By Inderbir Kaur Sandhu, Ph.D
My daughter just turned 28 months old. Here's her
development stages in brief.
Sitting unassisted and using pincer - 4 months
Talking - 6 months
Walking - 7.5 months
Knew alphabets (lowercase and uppercase) and sounds they
make by 18 months.
Sounding out words by two years.
The part that puzzles me most is her sense of humor. She
started making puns by 12 months - my husband calls me "m"
and she would call me "n" "o" "p". I asked her what her name
was and she said "Wee Willie Winkie"
At 18 months she started locking me out of the house every
time I take her diaper to the trash. I thought it was just
an accident until I could hear her laughing. I've caught her
just getting ready to slam the door several times. For
Christmas she received educational toys recommended for four
to eight year olds and she taught herself the nine planets
(she recognizes them in any NASA pictures) and all 50
What bothers me is that I know people think I'm hot-housing
her but I'm not. She teaches herself and then I buy
materials on whatever she's interested in. In fact when she
started trying to write I was against it but now I have no
choice because she is teaching herself anyway and I noticed
she forms some letters incorrectly. I NEED HELP! I can't
talk about her to people because they think that's bragging.
I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. I'm not even sure
she's gifted. Will she may just level out? Right now I need
support and information on learning materials for an
advanced 2 year old. Any idea where I can get these or find
out if there's a group of like kids in VA?
A: It does appear that your
daughter is rather advanced for her age. Therefore, it is
quite normal for you to appear hot-housing her when you are
actually very aware and concerned of her development and
doing your best to nurture her.
She is obviously advanced compared to her age group, and
unfortunately, if she does not get appropriate nurturance,
she may level out. Unidentified talent causes frustration
and boredom and the child will eventually want to “be like
the rest” by suppressing their gifted if not encouraged. For
educational materials, you may want to view the past
newsletters which have a lot of information in this area.
The good thing here is that you are already aware of her
condition and are looking for ways to help here; which means
half the battle is already won. Do keep up the good work,
and do not be discouraged by other people’s comments. People
have a lot to say but it only works when you pay attention
to them – and you do have a choice here.
In your area, I suggest you get in touch with the Gifted
Association (the contact provided) for some helpful
information on resources. Good Luck!
Virginia Association for the Gifted
P. O. Box 26212
Richmond, VA 23260-6212
Voice Mail: (804) 355-5945
Fax: (804) 355-5137
Liz Nelson, Executive Director