The Magic of Slow Parenting - Freeing Up Family Time and Eradicating Parenting Stress
By Andrew Loh
Slow parenting is the buzz word of the day. Also known as free-range
parenting, slow parenting is a parenting method when children are
allowed their own time and freedom to think and grow by themselves,
check the events around them, explore the world, and make their own
well-informed decisions. Parents help them to learn by observations,
through practical experiences and try to avoid a theoretical approach of
parenting. In traditional parenting, the mother assumes the
responsibility of raising children with love and care while in the slow
parenting technique, fathers take the charge to teach and train children
to learn in a responsible way.
The technical term “slow” is not
treated in a literary sense, rather parents should understand that slow
parenting is all about doing everything at a well-measured and proper
speed and infuse quality over quantity. It is the quality of learning
that matters and not the quantity. Family connections are made which
eventually help parents remain in the presence of children although at
leisure and freedom.
Slow parents are very intelligent and smart
and they are capable enough to keep the family schedule under tight
check so that all in the family gets enough time to reflect on their
mind and thoughts and learn at a leisurely pace. Slow parenting does not
mean that children are allowed to do whatever they want and wish.
Parents would never bend their back to please their children. Instead,
they allow their children to work out to know who they are and what
their responsibilities are. They are also allowed to think and act on
what they want to become in their life.
Parents should understand that they are not parenting to create a wonderful product
that does whatever they say and utter. In other words, parents should
not create a child that acts like a robot that dances to their tunes.
Rather, children should be allowed enough freedom and independence to
think about them and act on their own conscience to learn more about
life, its mysteries and intricacies. In nutshell, slow parenting deals
with the principle of raising children at their own pace without parents
losing their mind and develop tension and stress.
Advantages of Slow Parenting
Parents can make their children smart,
intelligent and self-reliant. In the process, they become more of their
needs and requirements and learn how to work to fulfill them.
Children will develop and develop more self-confidence.
also know, learn and understand about the big world that lies beyond
their cozy ambiance of home. Children are exposed to new vistas and
difficult situations almost every day.
Children will develop more
creative power and imagination to become intelligent citizens. They also
explore the world beyond their home and find out ways to solve difficult
Children will become freer in their mind and they will
develop their own sweet time to study and lead a life of contentment.
They will be less stressful and more active in their home and out
of it. In other words, they know how to detox their mind to get rid of
bad thoughts and negative mindset.
Parents will also become less
stressful, and they will be at their peace of mind too.
Disadvantages of Slow Parenting
If allowed too much freedom,
children may end up in undesirable company. Some children may take their
freedom as granted and they may even use it to develop bad habits.
Children may not know how to handle risky and dangerous situations in
the initial stages. They even experience very bad situations which might
break their mind and resolve.
Free children are prone to lose
their way in the big world of competition. They are also left with
innumerable choices and options which they might find very difficult to
pick and use.
Everything cannot be left for fathers alone. It
might be bad at times. Mother's intervention is also needed sometimes.
Slow parenting is a new age thinking and technique that needs
utmost care and attention. When this technique is used, parents should
always keep a tight watch on their children to know what they are doing
in their classroom and during free time. In other words, a leash is
always required to keep their children under invisible check. However,
when slow parenting works, it could be the best form of parenting in the
world as it will create additional time for the family that could
eventually used for more productive work and chore. You might want to read
Slow Parenting - Leisurely, yet Effective and Productive!