Let Your Children be Free of Stress and Anxiety - Creating a Mentally Tougher Child
By Andrew Loh
Excessive anxiety and stress could become a big problem for children as
the future could become uncertain and questionable. Anxiety could become
a big problem when children fail to lead a normal life and enjoy
positive and enjoyable experiences. It could even affect school
performance, peer relationship and family association.
How to assist children with extreme anxiety and make them mentally tougher?
Help children segregate good feelings from bad ones
Feelings and perceptions could be extremely diverse and different.
Some of them could be very good and positive while others could be
negative and very bad. Children may not know ways to identify and
segregate them. This perceived inability could make children accept the
negative thoughts, feelings and perceptions without knowing or
identifying their consequences. You may need to show them different
types of emotions and make them aware of those feelings. Tell them how
they can express their feelings through actions like using faces, their
body and by using meaningful words. You should also explain them why
expressing the right type of feelings in front of others is important.
Also them in action different actions one would make by using some
bodily actions: clenched fists, gripping hands, wincing faces, making
sad faces and wringing hands. Most of these are signs indicate anxiety
Allow them to express their emotions
Children can hide many things from parents. They are quite secretive
too. Parents may need to know and understand their minds before
attempting to get rid of anxiety in them. Allow them to express their
mind and feelings. Give them free time to express them. Children are
extreme in their emotions and they may not know how to express them in
front of you. However, parents may learn a lot about their inner
feelings by watching them very closely. When children are expressing
their feelings they may need to get an idea of the real reason for the
bad feelings. However, do not try to approve or disapprove any of their
expressions unless you are sure about them.
Setting daily routines
Your children should be consistent with
their daily routines. If children active and energetic, they may forget
and ignore negative emotions and expressions. Routines, when carried out
regularly, can easily reduce tension, stress and anxiety. Habit good
routines are known to replace bad feelings with positive ones. Life
style could have a big influence on the mental state of children. Let
your children play and have regimen of daily exercises. Bed time
routines should be observed while proper nutrition is also of paramount
importance. Never ever, allow your children to drink coffee and tea in
their young age (5 to 12 years). Set limits and restrictions for
unproductive activities like watching too many TV shows or playing too
much video game.
Teach brave and tougher behavior and mental composition
Unfamiliar and strange situations might instill a sense of fear in children.
The so called fear factor usually arises when children confront strange and
potentially dangerous situations. At the time of crisis, children are more likely
to seek your assurance, emotional support and motivation to escape those situations.
In other words, you may need to not only support them but also try to
find out clues of what is happening to them and their psyche. Keep calm
and do not express your reactions as they could affect your children's
Parents should become brave models for their
children. Never ever be anxious yourself and look scared as they could
affect your children too. Tell your children that this world is not
dangerous to live and one can live with confidence and courage if they
let go of anxiety and stressful situations.
Teach them behavioral strategies that are brave and relaxed
To remain brave and relaxed, children should learn brave behavior
that can put them at ease and relaxation. Here are some brave behavior
and their types:
In case of night fear, venture out to the
garden and try to assure oneself that nothing will happen.
In case of closed environment, try to learn how to sing and
talk to oneself by using a self talk script.
In case of classroom test fears, try to
listen to good music and use relaxation techniques.
Anxiety need not very bad for your children. It could
be very good extremely bad depending on your children's mental
composition and attitude. However, parents' consistent efforts could be
a big boon for child who faces anxious moments from time to time.
What to Do When You Worry Too Much: A Kid's Guide to Overcoming Anxiety (What to Do Guides for Kids)
By Dawn Huebner and Bonnie Matthews
Guides children and parents through the cognitive-behavioral techniques most often used in the
treatment of anxiety. This interactive self-help book is the complete resource for educating,
motivating, and empowering kids to overcome their overgrown worries. If you are the parent or
caregiver of an anxious child, you know what it feels like to be held hostage. So does your child.
Children who worry too much are held captive by their fears.
They go to great lengths to avoid frightening situations, and ask the same anxiety-based questions
over and over again. Yet the answers give them virtually no relief. Parents and caregivers find
themselves spending huge amounts of time reassuring, coaxing, accommodating, and doing whatever
else they can think of to minimize their child's distress.