Social Emotional Learning (SEL) - Empowering Children with Superior Social and Emotional Skills - Part II
By Andrew Loh
This article will give you additional tips and suggestions to help your
children to initiate them to the basic concept of SEL or social
emotional learning. Mastering emotional skills will help children
understand and master various social skills too. Both are interdependent
and mutually inclusive. In other words, good emotional skills will
always lead to better social skills.
Give respect to others and start appreciating basic differences in personal opinions
Social skills are easy to learn when we interact with others. To
interact with other in a harmonious manner, we should respect others and
listen to their opinions even if you do not agree with them. Basic
differences in personalities are always common while different people
would have different opinions. You may agree or may not agree with some
of them. However, to survive in this world one should give respect to
others and get the same back by commanding respect.
Teach children how mutual respect can earn good will for them. Also,
tell them that it is an issue of fair mannerism to respect others.
You should respect your own children before teaching the advantages
of respecting others. Respect children's intellect, intelligence and
mannerism. If their mannerism is not up to the expected level, tell them
so and give reasons why you are disagreeing with their mannerism.
Tell them different benefits that your children can gain by showing
respect to others.
Building positive relationship with others
Emotions and building positive relationship with
others are interrelated to each other. With better emotion, a child can
have a stable mind and intellect. Conversely, negative emotions may
force him or her to go inside the shell and become a reclusive
individual which might eventually lead to a stage of introvert. Positive
relation with others, again, is a social skill that eventually arises
out of emotionally balanced mind.
Teach children how
they can build better and positive relationship with others. For
example, children can make more friends in their classroom or become
friendly with their neighbors. Positive relationships could be built only
with an emotionally stronger person.
Teach them how to approach peers
and neighbors with affable mannerisms. For example, you can teach them
how to approach others with these simple guidelines. “Hello, How are
you?”, “Can we become friends?”, “It is so nice to talk to you”, “I have
a weekend party coming up this Saturday. You are welcome to join me” and
“Sir; it is so nice to speak to you”.
Here are some more practical tips to help your children
become stronger both in social and emotional skills:
Children should be able to ask for help when they are in some problem.
Interacting with others will help them learn the art of an important
social skill like communication. Children, who face problem, often
become intensely emotional as they do not know how to approach others to
solve their problems. Asking for help is perhaps the best tool to
streamline emotional and social skills.
Managing emotions is an important activity for parents because many of the problems that are
related to abnormal emotions could be tied down to mental problems. In
case of serious emotional problem, parents may need to consult a family
physician and discuss in detail about the problem.
Past research studies have indicated that team games are the best tools to enhance
better and positive emotions in children and for learning a series of
social skills. Monopoly, card games, strategy games, role playing games,
outdoor sport games and events are known to boost the spirit of team
participation, development of positive emotions and empowerment of
children with many social skills like better communication,
coordination, cooperation and positive interaction.
Confidence is the key to success. It is also a time-tested tool to develop self-image,
positivity and will power to succeed. A child with these three positive
characters is emotionally stringer which eventually helps them interact
with the society in a confident manner.
Children in distress are those who experience separation, death in the family or even disturbed
childhood. Such children need plenty of counseling and help to cope with
the rigors of extreme emotions. It is easy to bring them to the
mainstream of living. However, they need constant attention, close
supervision, love, care and affection.
Keeping children stress less is an important point to remember. Unnecessary stress can put
children under lots of emotional burden. You may need to assure and
encourage them when they are under stress. Some of them keywords that
you can use are, “I understand your problem and rest assured that I will
help you”, “You are so kind and sensitive. However, you worry more than
your friends at school. Do not worry, it is OK to feel that way and you
will do better eventually”, “I know that you are sad now. Come on! Let
us discuss about the problem, so that your anguish and worries would
vanish soon”, “Feeling anxious is OK, unless you are feeling very bad
about it. It is OK to be anxious. Anyways, let us discuss now to remove
it completely” and “I am ready to hold your bad emotions and feeling for
Pathways to Competence: Encouraging Healthy Social and Emotional Development in Young Children
By Sarah Landy Ph.D
Readers will get the most up-to-date research findings on
each social and emotional area; know what social-emotional
milestones a child should reach at each age level; address
parents' most common questions about hot topics such as
challenging behavior, language development, discipline,
play, and feeding and sleeping problems; get a wide range of
simple, concrete strategies and principles to use with
children in their care and share with caregivers to promote
their children's development in each key area; guide
caregivers with updated exercises and activities that
sharpen their parenting skills; select and use appropriate
assessment tools; understand all the major theories related
to social and emotional development; test their own
knowledge with updated discussion questions in each chapter.