How to Raise an Appreciative Child
By Andrew Loh
It never hurts to be a thankful person. Does it hurt one when he or she
appreciates others with the deepest corners of heart? What happens
when your children are appreciative of others and their actions? Did you
ever prompt or urge your children to be appreciative to their neighbor
or their friends? It is wonderful to raise an appreciative child and to
become a thankful child will never hurt or damage his or her credibility.
To be appreciative child also means showing
gratitude towards others and stay well-mannered to respond to others well-meaning actions. Research shows that when parents nurture their
children with this wonderful life skill, their overall personality
becomes dynamic and interactive. Young chidden who are in the age group
of five and eight years, may not show an unappreciative behavior because
their rudimentary knowledge and skills about the concept of appreciation
and gratitude. The most common words of gratitude "thank you" and
"please" do not come naturally to them and parents will need to add
these words to their dictionary.
Almost all children show a tendency of envy and self-centeredness. They may not be gracious
enough to say a simple "sorry" or "thank you" to others. They also
believe that the world exists for their sole benefit and they must get
what they want almost immediately. If at all they say "sorry" or "thank
you" to someone, it is because of some compulsion. Young children do not
have any idea about how other people feel about them. In addition, they
also face some difficulties comprehending how their friends and others
feel about them. Sympathy or empathy forms the basis of appreciation.
Young children need some time to understand these words and they need
months and years to look beyond their own needs and feelings.
The basic definition for appreciation varies from person to person. For
many, appreciation means saying a simple "thank you". For others,
raising appreciative children means training their children to show
gratitude and empathy towards their friends and elders. In a general
sense - you - to be appreciative to others, means stay thankful and
grateful towards others and comprehend how cherished values work in
For example, when your children morning cereal for
breakfast, they might know how that cereal is made nor do they
understand the immense difficulty face by farmers to grow grains like
wheat and corn. A child may not appreciate the efforts put by the farmer
to sow the seeds, raise the seedlings and nurture the young plants until
they yield the crop needed to make the breakfast cereal. However, the
same farmer's child would appreciate, his or her family, working day and
night to make a living from the crop they grow in their farm.
Children learn by seeing what you do in your home. When they see their
parents saying "thank you" and "please" while talking to other people,
they are more likely to learn the art of saying those words. When
children see their parents interact with friends and strangers in
friendly mannerisms, they are more likely to learn the same mannerism
when they become adults.
Children always copy what their parents
do and act. If you express gratitude and appreciation to others, then
your children will also learn how to be one. Children are malleable and
flexible when you consider their tender age and brain. Make sure that
you modify their behavior depending on the developmental stage. It means
that when children are below the age of 8 years, they are not ripe for
learning the art of appreciation. However, if your children are above
the age of 8 years they can learn the art of appreciating other people.
Many people believe that showing appreciation to others for
their actions and reactions is a simple social gesture. This is a wrong
notion on their part. Appreciation and thankfulness can enhance your
social stature and standing. If your children learn that art, they can
live a life full of satisfaction and contentment.
When your children learn the art of appreciation, they can get many benefits such as:
Develop a close circle of great friends.
Receive similar gestures from their friends and elders.
Become citizens with gracious and kind mind and intent.
Become empathetic and concerned towards people who need them.
Mastering the art of appreciation is a continuous process. It is also complex process
especially for young children who are selfish in their heart. However,
proper training could easily make them kind and appreciative as they
grow up in their mind and age. Continue to read
How to Raise an Appreciative Child - Parent's Tips