How to Prevent and Stop Bullying at Schools?
By Andrew Loh
It is more likely that one of your children may be facing one or the
other forms of bullying at school. Bullying is common in almost schools in the
world. The most common form of bullying is verbal abusing, intimidating
and taunting. If you see that your children are facing bullying
situations, then you may want to remember the following points:
Bullying is not your children's fault! Convince your children that
bullying is not their fault. Tell them that they should not feel ashamed
of themselves. In addition, you may also want to encourage your children
to face bullies with courage and conviction. Tell your children that you
are proud of them. Also, tell them that they have many wonderful
qualities with them. Ensure that you are there to help your children.
Take your children to their classroom teachers and talk about bullying.
If your children are feeling frightened and scared, encourage them to
come out of the stressful situations.
General tips to prevent and stop bullying in schools
Sadly, there is no one single quick fix solution to
control or prevent bullying. Bullying is always invisible and occurs in
the background. It could occur in a lunch recess or in a playground when
children are playing. Bullies are very intelligent and smart and they
will do anything to protect their identities. Train your children to
learn how they can face bullying situations.
Tip #1: Educate and train your children about bullying. Your children
(for that matter all children) may not know what bullying is and how they can
face a bullying situation. Most children fail to read the social signs of bullying.
In today's wired world, there is a growing trend that bullying has now
entered the social media world in the form of cyber bullying.
Tip #2: Keep in touch with your children's class teachers. Visit
them as often as possible. Inquire about incidents of bullying in a
discreet manner. Talk to them about your children and find out if
someone is bullying them.
Tip #3: If your
children are facing bullying from someone, you can contact the bullying
children directly and try to convince them why bullying is bad. Try to
be polite with them because they are children just like yours. They
might be facing some problems in the home and in fact, they might be
bully victims themselves. If they are adamant, then you contact their
parents and try to solve the problems at their level.
Bullying at schools should be considered with all seriousness because it
involves many people at the same time and in a psychological manner.
Make sure that you involve the head of the school, the concerned class
teacher and the PTA of the school.
Tip #5: Sit down with your
children and try to explain what bullying is and how it affects
children. You should tell them how bullies approach and cause verbal and
physical harm. In addition, train your children to react to bullying by
informing you at the earliest.
Tip #6: Many bullied children are bullies
themselves! This is a serious situation too. You should try to find out
if your children are bully by themselves. Training your children who
might be bully in their heart requires lot of attention and focus. Try
to be a great mentor by educating your children about the dangers of
becoming a bully.
Tip #7: Talk a lot to your children. Be a good
listener. You can ask about classroom, their peers and friends. Discuss
about their best friends and in what manner they treat your children.
Similarly, ask your children if they had any bitter experience in the
classroom on a particular day.
Tip #8: Watch out for deviant
behavior. At times, bullied or victims may become violent by themselves.
This aggressive behavior might result from sheer frustration of facing
continuous bullying in the school.
Tip #9: Children should never
fight with a bully because it may lead to bodily injuries and severe
consequences. Teach your children the ways to respond to bullying
situations. Tell them to contact the head of the school as quickly as
possible in case someone is bullying them. Suggest your children to stay
with their closest friends so that they can avoid bullying most of the
Tip #10: Preventing bullying is a team effort. You
should involve the school authorities, class teachers, parents and
others to control the menace. You should concerns toward other children
who are being bullied just like your children.
Always remember that early intervention is the best form of cure. With timely action,
you can prevent other serious problems like depression, anxiety and low
self-esteem in your children. Never ever, allow your children to handle
the bullying problems alone.
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Teasing, Taunting, and Bullying for Good
By Joel Haber, Ph.D and Jenna Glatzer
"Bully Coach" Joel Haber, Ph.D., is one of the foremost experts in the prevention of bullying. A
pioneer in the field, he has worked with thousands of kids, parents, teachers, counselors, and others
to understand the root causes of the bullying dynamic-from identifying bully types to exposing the
reasons why kids become bullies, targets, or bystanders-and stamp it out for the last time.
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results for both boys and girls, from grade school through high school, Bullyproof Your Child for
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