Helpful Positive Parenting Techniques and Methods
By Andrew Loh
The first important step that parents should try to understand is in
what manner they can bring a positive influence in their children's
life. The big question is “HOW” you can do it. Parents may need to
change the way in which they think and act. A major shift in their
thinking process is necessary to start applying the principles of
positive parenting. The “HOW” part of positive parenting involves in
what manner parents could use discipline to teach their basics of life.
Note: Teaching positive parenting to a parent is not an easy
task because it demands an overall change in the mindset and the way in
which they look at the world. If a parent is negative-minded, one can
safely assume that she would be using the same type of parental style to
teach her children. In another words, she will be passing her negative
mindset to her children too.
In spite of a negative mindset on part of a parent, still she can apply the
best positive parental practices to nurture children. Here are some of the
most simple techniques and methods of positive parenting:
Parental modeling technique: Everything starts with parents!
If parents behave in the way they should be, they can ensure that children are also
behaving in similar manner. Children (whatever their age may be) are
very sharp and agile and they observe how their parents are behaving. In
fact, they might become perfect copycats to repeat their parental
behavior. Here is how you can display your positive parenting behavior:
Be compassionate, kind and encouraging in nature.
respectful to your children even if they are just five years old.
Teach something positive about human behavior.
Never ever, yell at
Never ever, scold, beat or abuse your children.
Be respectful to others if your children are in front of them.
Social interaction will help parents raise a responsible child:
To survive in this word, one needs to be socially adept and efficient.
Seamless social interaction with people around us will help in setting
up new personal relationships and fine-tune existing ones. See that you
are urging your children to interact with friends, relative and other
people. This approach works very well for children who are in an age
bracket of six and ten years. Appropriate social behavior is mandatory
for your children and this trait can be learned only by mixing with
other people. Here are some simple tips to make your children socially
Take your children to a busy shopping mall or a public park.
Introduce your children your friends and ask them to converse with them.
Early conversation leads to better language acquisition and honing of
Arrange for a weekend party for your children's
friends. Ask them to talk to each other, play games that involve talking
and help children play dramas and skits.
Learning empathy: Emotional intelligence is a vital trait of humans.
Emotional IQ is as important as mental IQ and it helps children to face
the most common ordeals of life like sadness, separation of parents, and
death in the family or terminal illness to any other family members.
Children tend to express their feeling either through crying or by
venting their anger with tantrums. We do not need children who throw
tantrums in a fit of anger. Rather, we need children who are emotional
stable and robust. Here are simple tips to make your children learn
empathy that is a vital positive parenting technique:
Explain why controlling emotions is very important for children especially when
they are in the age group of five and ten years.
children the ways to control anger and frustration.
children if they perform badly in their classroom.
Teach them how
to be empathetic towards others. Playing with house pets is a very nice
way to teach empathy.
Playtime learning is the most
important activity: By playing children can learn a number of
cognitive abilities. Playtime is a relaxing tool for your children to
learn the nuisances of life. With playing games and other activities,
children usually develop a series of skills and abilities. Allowing your
children to play during designated time will help them freshen up their
mind and soul. You can use a number of games, activities and events to
train your children to learn different skills and abilities.
Nurturing self-esteem and self-image in your children:
Children learn by watching their parents especially the mother. A mother
is the window to her child's exterior world. Children learn a sense of
self-esteem by looking through the mother eyes. Parental words and
actions may affect children self-esteem in a significant manner. Here
are some simple steps to nurture self-esteem in your children:
1) Praise your children and never ridicule her or him for the mistakes they
might be committing while doing some activities.
occasional rewards for a successful completion of challenge or
3) Never ever, scold your children for a failed
Recognize your children's efforts and not end
results: If your children perform an activity or task,
recognize it and honor its importance. Never ever, ridicule the result
even if it is not good. Find a line of praise for every parenting day.
Here are some tips to recognize your children's efforts:
positive trigger words like “you were good”, “you can do better”, “you
did very well”, “well done”, “great work” etc.
never be physical. They can include a simple hug, kiss or a verbal
Set your own limits and stick to them:
Acceptable and amicable behavior is very important for a
family. A fair measure of discipline will help children choose
acceptable behaviors and master self-control and discipline. Set a
routine to enforce discipline. Warnings, repeated caution, time-out
discipline and snatching away privileges are some of the most common
positive parenting techniques.
Finally, parents should be flexible enough to fine-tune their parental techniques.
Some children may not show an inclination to learn positive parenting lessons. On the
other hand, many children are very receptive and eager to learn them.
Whatever the case, be ready to change your approach depending on the
actual situation in your home.
The Power of Positive Parenting : A Wonderful Way to Raise Children
By Dr. Glenn I. Latham
This is a child-rearing manual that provides practical
methods for working with children. This instructional book
goes a long way in helping parents to resolve problems using
specific strategies for dealing with inappropriate behavior
of children. In general, it's a book about child-rearing
practices and how the management of consequences can be the
key to creating good home environment.
Dr. Latham is a professor emeritus of education at Utah
State University, Logan, Utah, and is a behavior analyst. He
has been a teacher, consultant and advisor nationally and