Motivating Children to Achieve - Practical Methods
By Andrew Loh
Teaching motivation to your children could be a challenging act,
because you are trying to transform your children's mind towards
acquiring a new skill or knowledge. Teaching motivation is playing
with your children's mind and soul. With teaching achievement
motivation exercises, you will be empowering your children to get
better things in life or achieve better goals. In many cases,
parents may find it very difficult to make their children learn
motivational techniques, because understanding their minds is always
difficult. However, you can still do that by using an array of
Children may fail to get good grades or perform better in their
classrooms due to a number of reasons. However, these causes or
reasons always revolve around two motivational bases. In classrooms,
children may develop a desire to succeed just because of two
Hence, children put their best efforts to develop an emphasis on
getting extrinsic rewards. However, this attitude could be a little
negative, as they want to show someone that they are capable; in
fact, children may never develop an intrinsic motivation, because of
these external rewards. On the flipside, most children tend to
develop an external motivation, either from their teachers, peers or
parents which could be detrimental in the end. When children work
for external rewards, the experience could be temporary and short
On the other hand, intrinsic or internal motivation is very
difficult to teach, because it is internal and invisible. It is more
of a perception than reality. Schools always lay an emphasis on
their students achieving better marks and grades, which unduly place
a stress on them to work on their external motivation. External
motivation in children could have a number of disadvantages like:
Children always work for their external rewards.
Interest in classroom lessons could be temporary and superficial.
With external motivation, children always believe that learning is
something that they do for someone else, rather than their own self
External motivation may not teach your children the importance of
success in life.
On the other hand, teaching children internal motivation can help
them realize that it is very crucial for achieving external success.
Pre- and primary- schools are the times, when your children develop
a number of ideas about their school and their programs. This is the
time when you should try to teach them the importance of internal
motivation, which urges them to achieve tangible things in their
classrooms and out of it.
Educational experts and psychologists agree that young children also
need external motivation in equal measures to develop fine tuned
internal motivation. This means that both parents and teachers
should attempt to develop the habit of enhancing internal motivation
by using the principles of 6 P's. These principles are as follows:
Praise: More often praising from parents and teachers could
be overwhelming and overpowering. What your children need is sincere
praising that helps them focus on putting an additional effort.
Never ever, over do this part, as it could be counter-productive.
Power: Give an opportunity to your children to make their own
choices. This simple gesture could provide them a sense of autonomy
and independence. When you give those options and enough freedom,
they will be motivation-driven persons, who will lean on the
positive side of learning.
Projects: Projects and assignments could be amazing tools
that can help enhance increased levels of internal motivation. Good
projects and assignments can help your children develop
inquisitiveness and curiosity which are very good for increasing
People: Make sure that you develop personal relationship with
your children. Urge them to develop personal relationship with their
teachers and peers as well.
Prizes and rewards: Prizes and rewards are the external tools
to develop external motivation. However, when used wisely, they can
be very effective in developing internal motivation. Never ever,
announce your rewards to cajole children to finish their work. Do
not announce your rewards before your children finish their work.
Prestige: Children, who develop intrinsic motivation, always
demand prestige and recognition. Provide enough opportunities to
showcase your children's talent and skills in front of others.
Additional tips to motivate your children to achieve:
Provide an extremely caring and supportive ambience, where your
children feel that you are showing your respect to their
individuality and strengths.
Show that you believe in your children's ability to perform.
Help your children understand the importance of goals and the
process of achieving them.
Help your children to make rules about their classroom performances.
Help your children understand their strengths and weaknesses;
however, do not concentrate on their weaknesses.
Understand your children's talents, skills, goals and aspirations.
See that you treat your children in a fair manner.
Make sure that you assist your children see that failure is not due
to their lack of ability, but it is because of ineffective and
ineffective study methods.
Help your children understand the importance of time management
Never embarrass or ridicule your children in front of others.
The most visible indicator of enhancing achievement motivation level
is the emotion. When your children are motivated within their mind
and soul, they tend to show a positive display of emotion. When your
children develop better achievement levels, they also show full
satisfaction with their achievements which eventually leads to
better learning retention.
Drive: 9 Ways to Motivate Your Kids to Achieve
By Janine Walker Caffrey, Ed.D
Expert advice on helping children, teens, and young adults become self-starters, successful learners,
and involved citizens of the world. The quality of drive provides the momentum for a person to dream
and achieve, creating a unique, independent life. Without it, a person is like a rudderless boat, drifting
around a flat lake.
In Drive, nationally renowned educator Dr. Janine Caffrey shows how to inspire your children and develop
this vital characteristic. How do I get my child excited about learning? To enroll in a good college? To
move out of the house? To create his own life? Designed to assist parents, educators, and counselors to get
kids of all ages off the couch and into the world, Drive outlines nine specific steps proven to beat boredom
and foster self-motivation and resourcefulness.