Teaching Children How to Convert Failure into Success - Simple Tips and Suggestions
By Andrew Loh
Fear can be a potentially strong tool to succeed in life. When you teach
children how to use fear as a tool to succeed in life, they will learn
many other things in life too. Parents hate to see their children fail
either in classrooms or in sports. They want their children to succeed
in every task they undertake. Some of the most painful moments while
parents are nurturing their children are from frustratingly watching
their children fail in a class test or miss the selection for classroom
soccer team. Alternatively, parents may also hate to see their children
fail to make good friends in their school.
However, failure is not the end in life. In fact, it the next step to success. When utilized
properly, failure could mean definite success in the next attempt.
Failure, by itself, is a learning experience that can train your
children to achieve success in future. When children fail one time, they
will learn from their mistakes and perform better in the next attempt.
Here are some simple tips and suggestions that will help you train your
children to face a reality called “failure”.
Be a good guide and
mentor - Parents are children's best friends, philosophers, guides and
mentors. In fact, children look forward for parental guidance for all
the tasks they carry out. Make sure to devote 30 minutes to sit with
your children to talk to them and know their problems. A listening mind
is far better than a unresponsive one. Children like to talk to their
parents about their problems. Know the exact cause of failure that is
leading children to perform poorly in classroom. There could be several
reasons and causes.
Motivate them and urge them to develop
self-confidence - Children, who fail, often have very poor internal
motivation. This lack of motivation actually prevents them from trying
out any tasks or challenges. Once they are motivated internally, you can
expect them drive away the sense of failure from their mind. Here are
some important keywords to motivate your children:
Explain children why fear is a great tool to achieve success
in the future - You can explain your children why fear is not permanent
and in what manner they can drive away fear from their mind. Give
examples of great personalities of the past who failed repeatedly in
their life to arrive at a great invention or discovery. Thomas Alva
Edison and Marconi are two of the best examples for failures. Explain
them how they can learn from their mistakes, failure experiences and use
them effectively to taste success in all future attempts.
Help control emotions and trauma that might occur because of failure - Many
children might face trauma and negative emotions because of successive
failures. Parents should help their children during such times of
crises. At times, children may develop what is known as “fear of
failure” which is an extreme psychological condition that prevents
children from trying any tasks or challenges.
Note down instances of failure and devise strategies to convert them into success
in the next attempt - You may need to help children in recording
instances of failures experienced in the near past. This simple strategy
helps you devising strategies and plans that can be used next time when
children try out a new task. For example:
Let us say that your child fails in a classroom test and does not get good marks. There
should be one or many reasons for the failure. Some of the reasons could
be as follows:
May be the child did not study properly.
May be he or she studied well but failed to write good answers to
It is possible that the child is fearing the classroom
The first two problems are easy to solve. You may
just need to see that the child studies hard for the next test and write
down answers for many questions in a home-made-mock-test. Some children
use this technique to score well in the next test while many others may
need some more time to show a good performance. However, the last reason
might need a bit of extra effort. If the reason is due to panic and
anxiety, your child needs training in developing self-confidence,
positive mind and internal motivation. Just sit down with the child and
motivate them every day to improve performance. If you fail to motivate
them, then you can consult a child academician or a counselor to find a
Help children know what is success and
failure and learn to distinguish main differences between them - First,
children should know the basic definitions for success and failure. Once
they know all the essential differences between success and failure,
they would learn how to devise newer and workable strategies that can
help them succeed in life. They should also know that failure is not
permanent, while success is not the end itself. Success begets
satisfaction and a sense of achievement. In other words, children should
learn and understand that success is just a tool to develop further
motivation to achieve best things in life.
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By Paul Tough
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