Developing Child Independence Thinking Skills
By Andrew Loh
Critical independent thinking skills are very important for your
children. These important skills can enhance self-esteem and promote an
ability to meet any challenging situation with ease and optimism.
However, as parents we can hinder our children's ability to develop
independence thinking skills, by helping or doing more than they
actually need. Sometimes, we may even never realize that we are actually
doing all the work for them. In life, parents just love their children
and they want to take care of their children in every possible way.
However, parents may also forget that going all the way to help their
children, may actually hinder their children's ability to develop
independence thinking skills.
One of the primary goals of parents is to help children develop the
intense desire and ability to think on their own and without other's
help. Independent thinking is the desire or wish of a person to convince
him or her that the information and detail being presented is true,
worthy or reasonable.
Why attitude of independence is important for your children? A child who
develops independence thinking skills will always feel more confident
about themselves and their ability to solve intricate life problems,
especially when you are not there. You children will feel on top of the
world, when they work on their own and without your help. They will also
show a heightened enthusiasm to work more to achieve minor goals and
objectives. Just think how your children will be excited, when they
learn to wear their socks or zip up the jacket for the first time,
without any help from you! Just by doing these simple things, they feel
so proud of their ability to do things on their own.
Developing independence skills will provide a number of benefits to your
children such as:
A steep rise in confidence level and self-esteem
An ability to solve problems those occur in daily life
Developing compassion and love for others
An ability to help others, when they are facing problem
Better self-image and enthusiasm
When children feel that they can do things on their own, they will also
naturally want to learn and master new skills or solve intricate
problems. For example, a child who has repeatedly worked on buttoning
her blouse and who finally does it without her parent's help will
naturally demand to try to wear that blouse all by herself without help
from anyone. Alternatively, a boy who has repeatedly tried to tie his
shoelace and who finally does it without his parents' help will start
trying to slip them with self-effort.
You feel normally excited and thrilled, if your children are learning
all things with their own initiatives. This is what most parents expect
from their children too. Obviously, parents also want their children
learn new things, skills and abilities on their way to adulthood.
However, these events may happen, only when parents provide their
children an opportunity to try to do things on their own. In nutshell,
you may need to encourage independence in your children by watching
patiently, when they try to button their shirts on their own even if
they take many minutes. If you lose your patience at this critical
juncture, you will probably hindering or preventing your children from
learning important independence thinking skills. If you observe that
your children are failing in their act of learning new skills, you may
need to encourage them to try again, instead of helping your children
with your own efforts.
Independence skills are practical life skills. These skills can easily
assist your children develop confidence, feel less scared or nervous and
eventually face any situations that are likely to be encountered at
school and public places. Regardless of what children demand or they
feel need, parents may need to train them in acquiring critical
independence thinking skills and responsibilities. Mind you, it is a
lifelong commitment that might be difficult to achieve and satisfy.
Not all children succeed in learning these skills. There could be many
reasons for this perceived failure. Development milestones are not
similar among all children. Some of them may show keenness to learn
independence thinking skills at an early age, while others may take some
more time to learn them. Whatever the case, parents will need to give
enough opportunities for their children to learn these skills at an
early age. Cleaning up rooms, tables, helping parents' finish house
chore and getting ready for the school are some of the most important
independence skills that your children can learn. Today, families around
the world are busier than ever. Parents also feel bad about not giving
enough time for their children. When parents use the available time by
working with their children, they can easily teach very important
lessons about independence and responsibility. Continue to read
Teaching Your Children Independence Thinking Skills - How Parents can be
Proactive in Training their children.