Gifted Children with Never-Ending Questions - Tips for Parents
By Andrew Loh
Gifted children are endlessly inquisitive and enthusiastic. They never
get tired of asking questions. Curiosity and inquisitiveness are two of
the most significant characters of a gifted child. Parents of gifted
children often get exasperated with their children because of their
endless questions. If you are one of them, do not worry and just enjoy
being with those questions and you will simply love it! Use the
following techniques to help your children learn the art of asking
meaningful questions. At the same time, learn how to cope with those
endless series of questions.
Questions and questions!
Gifted children are often hungry for information and details. Their area
of interest might range from simple fishes to highly technical
aircrafts. However, most of them are very broad learners who are
interested in learning about the periphery of subjects. In other words,
many children who are gifted may simply want to know a bit about
everything. Whatever the case, parents would need to tackle their
endless questions that seem to come on repeatedly forever. Endless
barrage of questions may simply sap the energy from children. Help
children to set some boundaries to cope with the habit of asking too
many questions on diverse subjects. Let your child stick to a limited
number of topics so that he can acquire detailed knowledge and
information about them before going to the next ones.
Learn how to be a good talk host and a great conversationalist
Everything starts with good and meaningful conversations. It is always good to
learn the art of good conversation, especially with children who are
gifted and skilled. Children learn fast and quick with parents, who can
answer with confidence and courage. Good questions should always be met
with great answers that are also meaningful and useful.
Here are some simple examples:
Tom: “Mom, You said that breakfast is good for body and it would improve my health. How does it do it?”
Mom: “Tom, would you eat breakfast everyday without fail, if I explain you how it helps your health?”
Tom takes some time before coming out with his answers.
He has just two choices:
“No, tell me now and I will think of eating breakfast later.”
“OK, Promise that you will explain me. I will promise that I will eat breakfast from
tomorrow without fail.”
Mom too has one option:
“Please understand me now; both of us will come to an agreement now. You should
eat your breakfast now and from tomorrow, everyday without fail. If you
do that, I will tell you lots of stories on how eating well help you
With lots of conversations and persistent arguments, both Mom and her son Tom, benefit from
an agreement that make them happy ad contended. Conversations can help parents to impart a
great deal of knowledge and information for their hungry and inquisitive
Learning becomes mutual as both parents and children become enriched with knowledge
Some children are so excited that
they come with their little gems of knowledge and information. Do not
neglect children just because they are very young. Even children are
capable of discovering something new in their own ways. In fact, even
parents can learn a lot from their children. Here are simple examples:
Tom: “Mom, Do you know why star shine at night?”
Mom: “No Tom, I do not know. Can you please give some reasons why they shine at night?”
Tom: “What! You do not know! OK, I will explain now!”
Mom: “Please go on”
Now, Tom will start explaining why stars
shine only during night and goes explaining in his own way. Mom should
stay silent until Tom finishes his version.
Once Tom finishes, Mom may start with her own version of explaining why stars shine only
during night. She may like to compliment Tom for explaining in his way
and thank him for that. Now, mom should elicit more questions from Tom
and provide answers for all those questions. A constant exchange of
questions and answers is a great way to make your children and you more
knowledgeable and informative.
Raise children's inquisitiveness by throwing return questions
It is always beneficial to throw back questions that elicit more questions from children.
Both questions and answers should be open ended and it should lead to acquisition of
additional knowledge and information. Here are some simple tips:
Tom: “Mom, Why does this plant flower?”
Mom: “Tom, it is a good question. I will give a clue to you now and you should tell me more about it all by yourself.”
Mom will give Tom a clue and asks her son to provide more details and ask additional questions.
Mom: “Flowers will help the plant to thrive and reproduce.”
Tom will start giving his own explanation and ask additional questions. Now,
mom's duty is to provide more answers to Tom's questions and satisfy his
curiosity. In the same vein, she can ask more questions and elicit more
In the end, parents should not treat their
children with neglect nor should they answer questions with a terse
“because I said so or I know it.” Questions could be from both end, but
parents should give priority to their children first, because they are
the learners. Questions could be very tricky. They could be very
interesting too, both for children and their parents.
When Gifted Kids Don't Have All the Answers: How to Meet Their Social and Emotional Needs
By Jim Delisle, Ph.D. Judy Galbraith M.A.
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