Developing the Right Type of Attitude in Children - Right Attitude is a Precursor to Success in Life
By Andrew Loh
According to Reference.com, “attitude is disposition, feeling or
position with regard to a person or thing, or a tendency or orientation,
especially of the mind: a negative or positive attitude; group
Attitude is an important attribute in our life.
Without the right kind of attitude, you can never achieve anything in
life. Attitude is also an important precursor to future success in life.
It is also an energizer to achieve greater things in life. Attitude is
everything for a successful life. Many a great things have been achieved
with right kind of attitude. In essence, attitude is an essence of life.
Attitude is very critical for everyone including young children.
Unfortunately, many parents presume that the character of attitude
develops only when their children reach their teen age. They also
believe that training their children for better attitude is not so
necessary especially when they are in their sub-10 year's age. Sadly,
these perceptions are false and they may hinder their children's normal
growth and development. Instances of bad or disappointing attitudes
start occurring right when children are in their young age (less than 10
years). Bad attitude displays are clearly visible in young children
provided when parents choose to look at them.
Display of bad attitude starts in very smaller increments those are annoying and
disappointing. These negative actions could be a dissenting tone, dismal
mannerisms, annoying rebuttal of facts, defying of parental orders.
Unfortunately, parents usually treat such incidents as passing phases
and decide to forgive their children. However, such leniency could
boomerang on parents themselves may suffer as their children continue
displaying more aggressive instances of bad attitudes.
Children with bad or disappointing attitude usually appear in many forms, among
all children and sexes. Such children could be rich or poor or they may
live in a rural area or in a busy town. If you allow your children to
develop dismal attitude without trying to correct them, these bad
attitudes may prosper and grow. When children feel that there is no one
to resist them or their behavior, they might feel superior and start
behaving in an utterly misbehaving manner.
There are many reasons for children showing bad attitude. Some of them are as follows:
Synthesis of destructive thinking: At times, some children may
develop destructive thinking when they are still young. Bad attitude and
destructive behavior always go hand in hand. If parents fail to control
such behavior, their children are more likely to develop bad habit.
Ambiance at home: The general environment at home is an important
factor in deciding whether a child would develop bad attitude. If the
ambiance at home is depressive and negative, it is more likely that it
would cast a negative influence on children's attitude.
Excessive criticism and scolding from parents: Excessive criticism and
scolding is dangerous for children and it is a bad parenting method too.
Excessive criticism may snatch a child's ability to think and behave in
an affable manner.
Negative parental approach: If parents were
negative in their parenting, their children too would be negative in
their approach, behavior and attitude. Negativity always breeds negative
characters and bad attitude is one among them.
No or lack of
freedom: Children always need certain amount of freedom to develop their
own personality. When children use available free time with their own
activities, they develop self-confidence and self-esteem. Enhanced
self-esteem always means better attitude and a courageous outlook.
Excessive parental control is detrimental to your children's mental
Over protection of children: Over protection and a
denial to provide, freedom to your children is always counter-productive
and dangerous. Over protecting children may lead to a total loss of
self-confidence, courage, will power and a synthesis of fear factor. The
last issue is very critical to growing children because when they
develop fright and fear in their outlook, they will lose their
self-esteem that eventually leads to bad attitude.
Genetic and psychological problems: A display of bad attitude could also be a result
of genetics. If there are some inherited genetic problems, a child may
display very bad mannerism, attitude and an undisciplined outlook.
Parents are the vital links to their children defying behavior and
average attitude. Occasional display of disrespectful could be tolerated
to certain extent. However, parents should never tolerate uncontrolled
and repetitious display of bad attitude from their children. Most of the
time, many parents may not have the required control over their
children's bad attitude. If parents fail to control it by nixing in the
bud itself, children might even take over their parents with highly
demanding and annoying behavior.
The next article "
Practical Tips to Develop the Right Type of Attitude in Children - Right Attitude is a Precursor to Success in Life"
provides you innumerable tips on training your children to
display better attitude in front of their peers, elders and friends.