Develop Your Child's Emotional Intelligence (EQ)
By Andrew Loh
Emotional Intelligence ...."The ability to monitor one's own and others' feelings and emotions,
to discriminate among them and to use this information to guide one's
thinking and actions." - John D. Mayer and Peter Salovey
Emotions are part of human life. Without emotions, no one can survive.
Emotions ooze out of us almost every day. Happiness, sadness,
frustrations, laughter, weeping and anger are all parts of larger
emotional significance. Emotions are very special to us. They help us to
organize, gather, recall, remember, prioritize and process different
types of information that is so essential for our survival.
One of the main goals of parenting is to raise happy and relaxed
children, who can face any emotional upheavals or obstacles of life.
Children are notoriously weak in their emotional status, because of
growing brain functions. Emotionally weak children are more likely to
face future problems in their life. Therefore, it is very important to
develop your children's emotional health.
Emotionally stable and healthy children are always better than the
ones who are not. Being emotionally healthy means many positive things.
Here are some of the benefits of emotional health:
Learning - Emotion-healthy children are better learners, because they can
learn with a peace of mind and without any mental disturbance. Emotional
stability induces a calm and quiet brain that is so essential for
Behavioral problems - Children with better emotional health do not
display bad behavior. On the contrary, children with noticeable
emotional problems tend to be rude and awkward.
Self-assurance and confidence - Emotionally stronger children are
confident about their abilities and strengths. They also feel better
about themselves in an assured manner. Self-esteem comes so naturally to
Peer pressure - Peer pressure is one of the most dangerous things for a
growing child. Excessive peer pressure, when occurs in classroom, has the ability
to affect children's psyche and behavior.
Empathy - Emotionally stronger children are very empathetic and they show
a lot of concern towards others, who are facing some problems.
Non-controversial - These children are better in resolving conflicts that
occur in their classroom and among children. In addition, they never
enter into any unnecessary arguments with others.
Self-destructive habits - Emotionally stable children are less likely to
get into self-destructive behavior like drugs, alcohol, illicit sex and
other immoral acts.
Friendliness - These children possess a pleasing and friendly attitude
that can make them very popular wherever they go. In addition, they have
the ability to influence others with their good behavior.
Patience and good impulse control - Children who have better
emotional abilities are very patient and they can control their impulses
in a very efficient manner.
Successful - Above all, these children will become the most successful in
their chosen line of profession. Success comes to them automatically, at
least in a majority of them.
Develop your children's emotional intelligence leads to a
number of advantages apart from the ones mentioned above. Here are some
Facing threatening situations: Emotionally stronger children can react
to an adverse situation in a quicker manner. They can quickly gather,
organize, prioritize and process available bits of information in quick
succession. This rare, but special ability helps them wriggle out of
difficult situations. Such children can easily take self-protective
action in case of any danger occurring to them. Better emotional memory
can help them in many ways. This ability helps them in recalling information
about possible dangerous situations by processing it in a seamless
Moral autonomy and better conscience: Emotional intelligence also
relates to moral autonomy and conscience. When the sense of conscience
is good, children can make their own decisions without needing others'
suggestions or advice. Moral autonomy will help them resist the push and
pull exerted by external forces. In other words, they can resist
inferior external forces with better thought control abilities. Such children
will have the ability to self-judge between what is good for them or what
could be bad.
Responsible nature: Parents can help their children learn how to be
responsible in their life. This is possible in two distinctive ways. You
can train your children how to become responsible for their own happiness
and satisfaction. Second, you can tell them the reasons why becoming responsible
can help them in controlling their own life destiny.
Emotional intelligence is a necessary skill for your children. Emotional
strength also works as a strong antidote against repeated failures in
life. Emotional sensitivity is an important aspect of child's life. When
a child is emotionally sensitive, he or she may not be able to take the
right type of decision, because of the perceived indifference to the ground reality.
Too much sensitivity is quite dangerous because it signifies the
presence of emotional instability. Therefore, parents will need to train their children about the
basic aspects of emotional intelligence and stability. Continue to read
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