Dealing with Child Bullying - Understanding Bullying Facts
By Andrew Loh
.... "Each day and every week, Tom who was studying in his fifth grade,
used to ask his parents for more allowance for snacks and lunch. His
parents were getting worried why Tom was asking more money. Eventually,
they found out that one of Tom's seniors from seventh grade was forcibly
taking money from Tom. In fact, he was threatening to beat Tom if he
refused to pay him."
.... "Susan was a meek girl and is a seventh
grade student. In spite of her intelligence and smartness, she was
getting duller in her studies day by day. Her classroom performance
started dipping while she was reluctant to go to school. In fact, she
refused to go to school after sometime. Her parents were worried about
this development and they decided to find out what was happening.
Eventually, they found that one of Susan's senior students was
constantly bullying her and it affected Susan's psyche in a negative
The above-mentioned incidents are too common in schools.
These two incidents are classic examples of child bullying in schools.
Child bullying is a negative act pursued by some students in the school. In
essence, bullying is a negative, undesirable and aggressive behavior
that can be in the form of physical, verbal or relational patterns.
Bullying is a psychological phenomenon. The person who indulges in the
act is called the bully while the person who falls in the trap of a
bully is known as "target" or" bullied".
In fact, the bullied person may fall in the trap without knowing that he
or she is being bullied.
Child bullying is common among both boys and girls. Boys may use physical
threats and actions to scare the victim while girls may use verbal or
relationship bullying tactics to frighten the bullied. The negative
effects of bullying could be enormous and too intimidating. The
psychological effects of bullying could be long lasting and permanent.
The results of bullying could be as follows:
The victim or the
bullied may feel hurt, afraid, scared, frightened, frustrated, hopeless,
disappointed, isolated, sedentary, ashamed, angry and even guilty that
the act of bullying is somehow his or her fault. The intimidated person
could even feel suicidal.
The net negative results are very bad
for a bullied person. The negative health consequences could be
depression, suicidal tendencies, low self-esteem, anxiety and panic
Disappointing classroom performance, failing grades and
negative remarks are some of the serious consequences of bullying.
Note: The most damning issue with bullying is its repeating
nature. Bullies are always violent and aggressive. They could be
relentless and repetitive.
There are three main forms of child bullying:
Beating, kicking, haggling, pushing, slapping and other forms of
physical violence are the most common forms of physical bullying.
Stealing, hiding, and destroying someone's articles are the other forms
of physical bullying.
Verbal bullying: Teasing, issuing threats,
taunting, abusing, name-calling and insulting are the other forms of
Relationship bullying: Bullying could be relational
too. Refusing to talk to a person, excluding a student from common
activities and telling lies about someone are other forms of bullying.
Some children bully others for many reasons. Bullying is a
pleasurable activity for such students. Some children resort to bullying
for the following reasons:
To feel powerful and look tough in the school.
A false feeling of becoming popular in the school.
They try to cover up for their deficiencies.
They may not like others or they may feel jealous of someone
who is more intelligent than they are.
They may try to forget their own problems and eventually
try to escape them.
They might have been the bully victims themselves in the
More than 30% of children face one or the
other forms of bullying in their schools. Bullies always think and act
in their own viewpoints. In fact, they try to bully someone who they
feel are different from them or who they "do not fit" in with their line
of thinking. In many cases, cultural differences, color, religion,
creed, languages sexual orientation could be the precursors of instances
It is often very difficult to find
out whether your children are facing bullying from their peers. At
times, visible injuries and bruises could be the telltale signs of
bullying. Parents could see some warning signs among their children that
could pinpoint the possibilities of bullying. Children may look scared
and frightened after they come from school. They may look very anxious
and refuse to eat well. They may also look very moody and panic. In
fact, some of them may refuse to go to school. Children may never tell
their parents about bullying! In fact, some children may even enjoy
someone bullying them!
The most disturbing part of bullying is your children becoming bully themselves
after sometime. Hence, parents should be nipping the instances of bullying in its bud
itself. They may want to contact the principal of the school and try to
find out who is bully and why they are bullying their children.
Prevention is better than cure - preventing bullying is the best
antidote available. Continue to read
How to Prevent and Stop Bullying at Schools? here!