Quiz Score: Is Your Child an Independent Thinker?
By Dr. Elisa Medhus
3 points each for 1a, 2a, 3b, 4b, 5c, 6c, 7c,
8c, 9c, 10c, 11a, 12a, 13b, 14b, 15a, 16c, 17c, 18a, 19c, 20b, 21b
2 points each for 1b, 2b, 3c, 4c, 5b, 6b, 7b, 8b, 10b, 11b,
13c, 14c, 15c, 16b, 17a, 18c, 19a, 20c, 21a
1 point each for 1c, 2c, 3a, 4a, 5a, 6a, 7a, 8a, 9a and b,
10a, 11c, 12b and c, 13a, 14a, 15b, 16a, 17b, 18b, 19b, 20a, 21c
21-32 Whoa, your child is in the major
leagues in the externally directed department. He relies on
everybody else's thoughts and beliefs to run his life. Dangerously
in need of his own mind.
33-42 Could be worse. Your kid occasionally makes her own
choices, but is vulnerable to the opinions, evaluations and approval
43-52 Your kid usually thinks for himself and might become
more self-directed with maturity. The good news is that he does have
a mind of his own and is actually using his head for something other
than a hat rack from time to time.
52-63 Wow! Good job! You are the supreme parental raiser of
self-directed children. Your kid makes her choices using reason. She
is blessed with a high self-esteem, a deep sense of integrity and
solid self-confidence. She is competent, independent and unafraid to
face failure or take risks. And because she finds ways to be an
asset within any group, she will make great strides in life, both
personally and for any group she chooses to belong to. (Can I send
my kids over to your place for a few months?)
Dr. Elisa Medhus, mother of five and author of the provocative new book
Raising Children Who Think for Themselves, has thirteen years of experience dealing with the biggest problems families
face. Her new book gives parents concrete, common-sense tools for getting through to their
kids, with seven effective strategies for raising independently-minded children.