Helping Your Kids to Develop Responsible Behavior
By Andrew Loh
Parents can be very good teachers as well apart from being very good
guides and mentors. There are a number of good issues and topics
that you can teach your child as a responsible parent. However,
nothing could be as important as teaching your child good mannerisms
and an exemplary sense of responsibility. Teaching responsibly to
your kid means assisting to learn and understand the ways and
methods by which your kid can interact with friends and strangers.
It also involves displaying self respect and empathy towards others.
Mind you no kid in this world comes studded or equipped with very
good behavior and mannerisms. Nor do any child takes his or her
birth preprogrammed with character traits like willingness to share
and distribute, respect the feelings of others, show respect towards
authority and empathize with impoverished children. It is possible
to teach considerate behavior and responsible mannerisms when your
child is still young and tender; this will help your child to
completely develop the behavior when she or he grows up and becomes
The first lesson begins at your home and you are also the first
teacher who is trying to transform your kid into a responsible
citizen. Primary lessons start in the cozy ambience of your home and
the first basic lesson is setting a good example on a daily and
consistent basis. As a parent, you can perform this by:
Exhibit a high level of mature behavior in how you deal with people,
both close and strangers
Exhibit a very high level of tolerance in reacting to a stressful
and critical situation
Show your kids how you can manage people with your ultra people
friendly behavior, in what ways can you manage divergent opinions
and handle conflicts and disagreements
You can exhibit a positive role by being responsible to yourself!
When you are responsible and disciplined, it becomes very easy for
you to help your kids learn how to think better, feel good and act
in manner that is normal and responsible. Good behavior also
involves pursuing a habit of considering other's feelings and
opinions. Responsibility and good mannerisms also include other
character traits like accountability, fairness, compassion,
integrity, honesty, self respect, courage and confession.
Responsible behavior is also a cultivated habit that evolves
gradually over time. It is a result of your outlook in daily life
and composed daily habits. You may wish to integrate and gel several
beneficial aspects of responsible behavior in your kid's daily life.
The main goal of the program should focus on teaching and
inculcating the good habit of respect and compassion (empathy)
towards others, including strangers. Here are some of the most basic
traits that should form foundation stones of the program:
Honesty: Being truthful and realistic to our mind and
conscience will help us become responsible and dedicated to our
Courage: If your child is courageous and truthful, he
or she can be extremely responsible in the future. This trait will
help in taking good decisions based upon truth and evidence, not
upon ulterior motives.
Self Control and Self Discipline: These positive
indicators will help your kid to act responsibly in preventing bad
and inappropriate behavior. He or she will also learn to control
anger and impatience.
Self Respect and Pride: When your child is honest,
truthful, and courageous and honest, she or he can start to respect
themselves before respecting others. These are possibly the most
cherished traits in your kids.
Compassion, kindness, empathy and respect towards others are the
most desirable characters in your kid. These traits are not only
necessary in life to perform better socially; your kid also needs
them to empower to perform better both in personal and professional
spheres. Gelled with establishing an excellent example and getting
actively involved in your kid's development and encouragement of
social skills, spending quality time with kids and teach them about
proper, right, correct and responsible behavior are some of the
corrective actions that you can take as a parent, while streamlining
your kid towards the road to responsibility.
More often, teaching your kid to be responsible is a long journey
and a tedious process fraught with uncertainties and imponderables.
As a parent, what you need from your side is 100% commitment and
perseverance and the right and fitting ambience in your home. It is
also a continuous process where both you and your kids are the
active participants in the learning cycle.