Problem Solving Skills with Children Two to Eight - Part I
By Andrew Loh
Children use their early years to develop and streamline problem
solving skills and techniques. These techniques could include skills
to handle conflicts, learning how to fight back, escape from dangers
or even learning how to solve emerging problems. For thousands of
years, adults managed emerging conflicts with their young children
by instructing them what they should not do and how they should
behave. Most parents always reinforced their belief by introducing
punishments and structuring in the hope that their children will be
more compliant and disciplined. However, what they never realized
was that it was a negative and inferior process for them as well as
their children. In fact, their children ended up becoming aggressive
and violent. However, child psychologists and experts are advocating
more positive methods that can help parents solve problems with
Every child is his or her own individual! As your child grows into
age, he or she will start learning a number of social skills at a
furious pace. Such a fast-paced learning often results in a number
of social problems of which conflicts and arguments are the most
common ones. Regular conflicts among the members of your family may
lead to bitter and un-pleasant power struggles for asserting
supremacy. When you learn the basic technique of problem solving
with your children especially between the age of two and eight, you
can easily guide them to help them streamline their inner feelings,
opinions, desires and expressions.
Most young children are immature in their thinking process and the
way in which they streamline their opinions and expression
especially when it comes to stressful or conflicting situations.
When parents learn basic problem solving techniques, they can make
their children understand the value of resolving all pending
conflicts with peace of mind. The positive outcome of teaching
problem solving techniques with your children belongs to two special
When your child asks the above-mentioned questions, he or she is
already tuning the mind to solve the problems without their
knowledge. When you train them with relevant techniques, they can
recognize that they have many options and choices before them to
solve any type of problems. Your children will also learn that there
are many numbers of acceptable ways to reach their goals or achieve
their desires. Problem solving techniques can help your children to
recognize that there are a number of options for satisfying their
wants and needs.
For example, these techniques can help them to convert their
conflicting mind into rationally thinking one that can seek ways to
resolve all pending conflicting situations in a peaceful manner.
Here are some conflicting situations and children react to them
after learning problem-solving techniques:
Problem: "I want that toy now"
Solution: "I can play with other toys in the room?"
Problem: "I want to watch that cartoon show now"
Solution: "OK, I can watch that show after I finish my homework"
All problem-solving techniques are very efficient and you can
successfully turn all arguments into very productive partnerships
that eventually end in a definite win-win situation that is
satisfactory to all the parties involved. When you provide the right
type of training, even a four-year-old child can become efficient in
solving problems. The significant advantages of teaching problem
solving techniques to your children are:
Learning the responsibility of remaining calm and composed
Learning to cooperate with parents and other children
Streamlining communication skills and verbalizing expressions and
All problems solving technique focus on a number of important
aspects of your child's life. While problems are common for almost
all of us, solving those problems become an important issue so that
we can lead a life full of contentment and peace. Problem solving
techniques try to focus on changing the basic thinking skills; in
many ways, it is almost like transforming a rigid mind into a
flexible one that can find amicable solutions to even most dicey of
As a responsible parent, you will need to train your children to
solve their problems in most amicable and effective ways so that
they can learn to attain success in their professional and personal
life. Problem solving forms an important part of thinking and it is
the most complex of all intellectual functions in human beings.
Problem solving and conflict resolution for your children should
begin in their early life. Understanding, comprehending and teaching
problem-solving techniques to your children is an integral and
integrated part of their social, mental development and personal
growth. Without these invaluable tools, your children will become
adults and start resolving all problems by using the only method
they know and understand - with a fickle mind, too much emotional
behavior, and unfortunately, with too much force. Continue to read
Problem Solving Skills with Children Two to Eight - Part II here!