The Power of Praising and Encouragement - Tips for Parents
By Andrew Loh
Most parents never realize the amount or quantum of power they wield
to influence and affect their children, by providing them the
necessary positive and beneficial attention for their behavior and
mannerisms. Almost all children are very intelligent and smart in
doing a number of things that get them the required attention from
their parents. It could be even negative attention! All smart and
effective parents can use any type of predictable scenarios to act
on negative and counter-productive behaviors. They are also adept
and efficient in nurturing all positive and productive behaviors
with the ultimate power of praise and encouragement.
Successful children are those individuals, who develop new and
better behaviors and focus on those ones that you always value and
cherish. In fact, all these behaviors are possible only when you
give your children positive attention. Praising and encouraging your
children for their right behavior will make you a positive parent
and it will also help you exert a tremendous influence on your
The characters of praise and encouragement are extremely powerful,
when your children are learning new behaviors or new techniques.
Being praise and encouraged make people feel extremely good and
positive about themselves and their abilities. When your children
get the required amount of praise and encouragement from you, they
want to be with you always and they will do lot of things for you
that are useful and productive.
Here are some useful tips that will help you praise and encourage
your children in a positive way:
Sit down and think how you can praise and encourage your children.
Think in what way and method you can heap praise on them; check
out those scenarios that are fit enough to be praised and encouraged.
Decide and evaluate what values and positive traits are very
critical for your children and seek opportunities that will help you
reinforce better and positive behavior.
Think about all those scenes, when your children did something
that made you praise and encourage them.
Try to find those scenarios, when you can readily praise and
encourage your children with positive words and expressions.
Praise and encourage your children as soon as you can, to
reinforce good behavior.
When you praise and encourage your children, you are already
helping them analyze in their mind about those actions that helped
them to receive so many words of praise and encouragement.
You can repeat the words of praise and encouragement day after day
and months after months, even if it means that you are repeating the
things over and again.
You will need to praise and encourage your children to learn the
noble characters of praising themselves.
When your children put their best efforts to study for their
exams, praise their behavior. Encourage them to perform better in
their next test.
Your children are human like you. Even they will make mistakes
like those that you did when you were child. Accept the ground
reality that anyone can commit mistakes and your children are no
exception to that rule.
Find out the relation between success and effort. Use this
connection when you praise and encouragement. You should value the
efforts put in by your children. When you children know that praise
comes for their sincere efforts, they will start working hard for
Stay on your toes for those opportunities, when you can praise
Always reinforce new and netter behavior that can help your
children in their future. Connect the factor of praising and
encouragement with their future success.
As far as possible, never criticize your children unless it is
necessary. Criticism sans solid reasoning will always be
Steps for praising and encouraging
Focus and place your attention on your children and those
situations that deserves your attention; use praise whenever it is
When you are praising, ensure that you are moving very close to
your children. This will connect you with them and their heart.
When praising, make an eye contact with your children. Ensure
that you are bending down to your child's eye level. This simple
action will help your children feel so special and proud of you.
Touch is the most personal action that you can take. Gently touch
your children's hand, when praising and encouraging. Human touch is
perhaps the best touch of all!
You can hug your children while praising or encouraging. This
will create an instant connection between you and the children.
Praising and motivation help your children to react
very positively to any situation and later focus their efforts on
doing the right type of things. Parents who use an opportunity to
praise their children will benefit largely by highly disciplined and
proactive children with positive characters that they always valued
in their life.