The Power of Positive Parenting: Raising Happy and Positive Kids in a Negative World
By Andrew Loh
Raising positive and self reliant children is a tough and
challenging task that also provides you an immense satisfaction that
you are taking your kids on path of personal success. Most of us are
ill prepared to take on the task of parenting our children in a
positive and encouraging way. Here are some simple and basic
techniques that assist you in raising your kids in a positive
Teach Self Esteem
All kids are the mirror images of their parents,
especially their mothers. As soon a baby takes its birth, he or she
will start developing a sense of self esteem that is basic and
primary. In fact, your baby will see the external world through your
own eyes. He or she will start learning about the environs through
your own actions and reactions. Your behavior and mannerisms can
affect your kid’s self esteem to a large extent. Little words of
appreciation and encouragement can help you kid to develop a keen
sense of self esteem. On the other hand, making unsavory and
unnecessary comments and criticisms may drive your kid to feel
depressed and negative.
Never ever use bad words as a weapon to scold your kid. Some of
these words could be “stupid”, “you are not good”, “you are useless”
Never degrade or criticize you kid by comparing with other kids.
Example: “:ook at your friend. He is so good”, “You act like a small
baby than your little brother”.
Choosing carefully selected words can have a profound effect on your
kid’s psyche and mentality. Let your kid know that you really care
for him or her. Show this attitude with your actions.
Devote Quality Time
This is perhaps another important parenting
factor that most of us miss as dedicated parents. As parents, we are
always busy in carrying out different, simultaneous tasks at the
same time. Kids badly need their parent’s time for their needs and
requirements. Providing good and quality time to your kids will help
them develop a close and affectionate relationship with you.
Get up early to finish your work so that you can be with your kid
to have a leisurely breakfast.
Make time to spend some quality time to read bed time stories and
Drop your kid to school and bring him or her back in the evening.
Reserve at least 30 minutes of your time to play with your kid. As
far as possible, involve in some games those teach skills and
Host a monthly party for your kid with her or his close friends.
If your child is younger than two years, ensure that you devote at
least quarter of your time to look after her entertainment.
Be a Responsible and Role Model
Young kids learn and understand by
watching your actions, mannerisms, behavior and how you act in front
of other people. It seems that younger your kids are more will be
their keenness and inquisitiveness to pick up cues from you. Be
aware that your kids are watching you all the time.
Show respect to others so that your kid will learn that trait from
Other noble characters to show your kid are: friendliness,
honesty, kindness, tolerance, complimenting others, modest to
Most of us always want our kids to listen and
obey to whatever we order them to do. This seems to be a wrong
attitude on our part. You simply cannot expect your kids to obey and
follow just because you are a parent! You will need to explain and
convince your kids about any issues that you want them to tackle.
You will also ensure that you are making your expectations very
clear and concise. Make suggestions and try to make them understand.
You can also offer them a range of choices.
Suggested words to use are: “Please look here”, “Here are some
suggestions”, “I expect you to do this work”, “You have two options”
Kids who are able to participate in decision making process are more
capable to perform better in what ever they do or perform.
Finally, none of us are the perfect parents in this world. Like our
kids, even we need to learn, understand and master the skills of
better and effective parenting. Once we know how we can parent our
kids in a positive way, the rest becomes so easy and productive.