Leisure Time Goal Setting for Your Kids
By Andrew Loh
Kids, by their nature and kind, cannot concentrate and focus on a
particular task. They tend to get distracted very quickly and this
distraction actually deters and prevents them from achieving
long-term goals. A year or more could be very long time for your
kid. Helping your kids to set and achieve very small goals during
their leisure time could be one of the easiest and efficient
techniques. Kids get their leisure time every day, in the weekend
and during summer holidays. You can set very small goals for them to
work during these time slots.
Leisure time is a great way to introduce your kids to set and
achieve goals. Before setting any goals, you will need to sit down
with your kid/s and start talking about options and possibilities,
to detect and find the type of activities that get your kid get
excited and thrilled about. You will also need to find out about the
type of goals that really charge your kids up, motivate and energize
them and light a fire that catalyzes them to go for the goals.
Another simple and easier way that energizes your kid to work for
the goal is to set a common goal for you and the kid, and start
working for them as a team. For example, you can set a simple goal
with your kid just to do grocery shopping. After completing your
grocery shopping, you can say, "I feel happy that we have managed
to complete what we set out to do. It is always satisfying when we
succeed in doing things we have planned." Some other common
goals that you and your kids can participate together are:
Tidying up and cleaning the kid's room and arrange all those
scattered toys neatly on the table.
Get the dinner ready in time.
Set a goal to weed and water the garden by the end of the week
Teamwork brings the best of any team member and it is true with your
family as well. If you feel that you have a special interest or
passion for a subject, you can ask your kid to participate with you
to work on those issues. Perhaps, it could be simple dining room
chore like cleaning up the cooking table and washing dishes. Another
excellent team goal could be planning to give a party to other kids
by the weekend, and get ready to host the party as a team.
However, every kid in this world will have his or her own likes and
dislikes, passion and urge to work on a cherished subject. If you
find that your kid is inclined to work on his or her own self, you
may need to step aside and allow your kid to work individually and
on his or her own effort. Under such a scenario, you will need to
appreciate and applaud your children’s capabilities towards
achieving allotted goals. Reward and appreciate your kid for his or
her timeliness, dedication, commitment, perseverance and work
Tip: Your kid is not a perfect human being who can always
deliver the best. Have patience and appreciate the fact that he or
she did try to complete the allotted goal.
Here is a flowchart that will tell you how you can help your kid to
set and achieve meaningful goals:
Ask your kid think about and create a list in detail, what his or
her goals look like, when she or he may reach those goals. You may
also provide him or her some pictures and illustrations that relate
to the set goals. Your kid can collect some illustrations and
pictures to create an attractive album. Ensure that your kid will
see, inspect and go through that album almost on a consistent basis.
You can also teach your kid how to write a detailed action plan that
lists various issues and topics that will help him or her in
reaching or achieving those goals.
A simple approach is to write out the steps or actions that he or
she will take forward to reach the elusive goalpost. You can also
teach him or her about the importance of setting very small goals
and later working forward to achieve them. These small goals could
Arranging all the toys and playthings by the weekend
Finishing off all pending homework by the weekend
Learn wearing tie and shoes within the next 10 days.
Also, suggest that he or she must try to work towards some definite
objectives, however smaller they are. Once your kid learns how to
write an action plan that helps to travel towards the goal post, you
can rest assured that he or she is on the way to tackle all minor
challenges and problems.
The intricate process of setting meaningful goals, taking suitable
action on them and later achieving substantial success, is very
critical for the future success of your kid. This will also help
them to learn self motivation and self esteem, which are so
essential for both personal and professional success. In the end, it
is not really the size of the goal that matters to your kid, but the
satisfaction gained by reaching those elusive goalposts, that
provide that giant fillip or a launching vehicle for future success.