Assist Your Children Handle Their Emotions
By Andrew Loh
It is so heart-breaking to see our children shout with anger, get
disappointed and throw temper tantrums because of some unknown
reasons. Some parents wonder what is really wrong with their
children, while a number of others start to worry and start
wondering whatever has happened to their children. In many cases,
children who face emotional problems feel angry, scared and demand
parent's help and assistance. The way in which our children think
and act is entirely different and it is up to you to teach and train
your children how to manage their feelings and emotions as they grow
up in their life.
Children keep learning new things and they also react to new
situations and scenarios in their own way. In the process of
learning new things, they may also encounter new ones that they do
not understand and comprehend. One of the hottest topics of recent
years has been the issue of EQ or emotional intelligence, which may
be a notable factor that predicts and determines your child's
success in school, adult life and developing personal relationships.
In fact, it is believed that emotional intelligence is far more
important than intelligent quotient (IQ).
As a parent, you can help your child develop a stable and robust
mind to encounter any stressful and turbulent situation. You can
also help your child develop skills and techniques that are so
necessary in dealing with extremely big feelings so that they find
it very easy to deal with any scenarios as well as get along well
Here are some useful tips to help your child develop stronger and
Initially, you may help you child to know and indentify their
feelings. You may also need to help them become more self-aware by
teaching them naming those situations that are likely to be
potentially stressful and emotionally turbulent.
Likelihood of getting disappointing grades in the class: If you
perceive that your child is going to get low grades, you can help
your child by urging him or her to notice and understand the
debilitating effect of getting low scores. Make your child
understand that a single instance of getting low grade is not the
end of the world. Encourage your child to acknowledge the incident
and help him or her cope with the disappointment.
Teaching your children the ways and methods to manage and administer
their moods, feelings and emotions when they are upset with an
external stimulus, will help them grow up in a responsible and
When you perceive thdat you child is extremely stressed and
emotionally turbulent, you can help him or her recuperate from the
stressful situations. Spend some time cajoling your child. Utter a
number of encouraging words and express your love and affection so
that he or she feels confident and courageous. Let your child find
ways to cheer up! Your child can learn to jump and dance to a music
Children always want to imitate adults! They may get frustrated
because they are too small and lack the required skills and strength
to perform tasks suited for adults. If they fail to perform an adult
task, they may feel embarrassed and ashamed of their weakness. What
they need at this juncture is ample encouragement and support from
Your young child may face problems while wearing his
trousers or putting the lid back on a box. You may need to help your
child handle such frustrating situations by agreeing about how tough
and difficult it is for him or her and later teach the basic tricks
to perform the task all by him or herself.
Teach your child the habit of competence which eventually allows him
or her build confidence as well as emotional stability. You may also
need to teach your child the necessary skills for getting along well
with his or her peers and elders. But, remember that learning all
these things may take a lot of time. Learning to be emotionally
stable is a lifelong habit. As a parent, your may need to direct
your energy and effort towards enabling and empowering your child to
cope with everyday emotional disturbances and occasional upheavals.
There are several methods that help you boost your child's emotional
intelligence and many of them come through daily interactions within
the family ambience and environment. In many ways, we have the
ability to offer the best of emotional support to our children.
Nevertheless, we may lack the finer aspects of life that nudge our
children to learn the ways and methods that ensure complete
emotional stability and coherence.