Discipline Techniques for Children that Work - Basic Techniques
By Andrew Loh
With a range of discipline skills and methods, you can easily work
with your children. Better methods of discipline will also help
avoid instances of frustration and embarrassment. Ask any discerning
and concerned parent - they will always say that disciplining their
children is their biggest concern. Effective discipline techniques
teach your children the right type of mindset and mannerism that can
take them forward in their life. As a dedicated parent, you will
need to empower your children with the right type of discipline and
good behavior that will win accolades from other people. With good
self-control, your children will know in what manner they can behave
and act, when someone is watching and examining them.
Your children always learn better from what exactly occurs to them
and not from what you explain them. It is just more than what you
tell them. Children can be very tricky to handle and manage.
Children can go any length to test your patience. They can test you
by arguing, whining and yelling. In fact, they want to see how you
react to them! If they are negative and when you reward their
negative behavior, you are actually encouraging them to repeat the
negative behavior all over again.
Children also learn things by mimicking what others are doing.
Children like to copy their elders and parents. If you show model
behavior, they are likely to repeat the same behavior. Rewarding
your child for good behavior will catalyze their ability to repeat
good behavior and mannerism. If you find that your children are
showing good behavior, you will need to let them know how pleased
you are about their behavior.
When your children are behaving well, you will need to show your
agreement, by either nodding or smiling. Pay attention to your
children, so that you can monitor their behavior. Never ever, give
play toys or snacks, when your children misbehave or show bad
behavior. If you have very young children, never shame or embarrass
them in front of others. When you hurt their feelings, you can
damage their self-image and self-esteem.
Here are some effective ways to discipline your children:
Use time out option: Keep your children active by encouraging
them stay or play alone for an hour or two. When they are alone and
up to them, your children calm down. Once they become calm and
quiet, you can sit down with them and discuss about all positive
benefits of good behavior.
Power of words: If your child is misbehaving, you can talk to
him or her in calm and quiet manner. Ask your child what made him or
her to misbehave. Then, you can ask them solve the problem by
working with you. Arrive at a workable and practical solution to
solve the problem.
Alter the schedule or change the activity: When your children
are doing something ill mannered, you can stop that activity almost
immediately. However, give an explanation why you are stopping them.
At the same time, suggest them other activities and reschedule their
time to do good things.
Helping children to fix pending problems: Your child should
be able to fix up any problems as and when they occur. If your child
hits another, help your child to calm down the other child.
Encourage your child to do this.
Occasional ignorance: Many a time, children misbehave just to
get their parent's attention! You can ignore those activities that
are not serious. Instead, pay attention to their good behavior. You
can attend them for their good behavior. However, do not ignore
their negative behavior that is serious and embarrassing.
Deal with a firm hand: Be firm and tough, while dealing with
instances of misbehavior. You can use the right type of voice,
whenever there is a case of indiscipline.
Take control of the situation: If there is a need to correct
the situation, you will need to act swiftly and urgently to solve
the problem. Never ever, lose your patience and get angry.
Some activities you can try:
Simple words of caution: ¡°Please don't do that again¡±, ¡°Please do
not slam the door¡±, ¡°Please do not write on the wall¡±, and ¡°Please
do not spoil that toy¡±. When you use these words, your child will
understand the tone of your firm, yet gentle order that will help
them avoid doing those things that are not appropriate.
Use any number of words that praise your children - ¡°You did a good
thing¡±, ¡°You have been so nice¡±, ¡°You are so good mannered¡± and ¡°You
are such an obedient person¡±.
Try to control and manage your angry face, while restraining your
children from misbehaving. Never be too rude and ill mannered
Teaching discipline and good behavior is a two-way traffic. It needs
your participation and your children's active support. However, you
may ensure that it is a continuous process, until such a time, when
your children grow into the adult stage.